So Much

Updates on a few things, first, I finished Star Trek Enterprise. The very end saddened me, because it was over, and left me wanting more, because, well, Trip, oh FYI, I looked it up on IMDB. Because people were trying to correct me on the spelling of his name. It is Trip, his name is Charles Tucker III, Trip is short for triple.

The fourth season did me in, that was the best, I loved it and hated it. Loved because it wrapped up everything and hated, because it was wrapped up and therefore over.

Next up, the ongoing saga with my neighbors, they disappeared. Like gone, cars gone, everything gone.

One day I came home and the husband was putting living room furniture on the curb. It was dark brown, good for hiding blood stains was my first thought. Then the wife’s car was gone, no car at all, no sightings of her or the kids. Then a moving truck shows up in the driveway. He spent weeks putting things in the truck. One evening I come home and he is putting his car on the car thingy and drives off.

Just gone, no sign in the yard that they sold the house, no notice on the windows or doors. Just poof, gone, here is where it deepens. Roughly a week later two cars were in the driveway, men were walking around the house. Now there is a huge trash receptacle in the driveway. And they are very literally cleaning house, it is cram packed now.

I realize that I am the Gladys Kravitz of my street. I need an Abner, that way he can read the paper and I can say “Abner, I think that man killed his family on the brown couch.” He can sit and read the paper. It’s too late for me to have an Abner. First of all I don’t think men are named that anymore and secondly I am undatable. So there’s that.

Anyway I don’t have anything else on them, they just disappeared.

I’m not going to lie, this August has been a little rougher than recent years. I miss my mom and Michael a lot, I think about them, a lot. I know they are incredibly happy where they are and I know they don’t know anything about my life. Because, heaven, you know, the place you get to go and not have to know what is going on here anymore. Because it is all so incredibly sad and there are no tears in heaven. As you can see it seriously bothers me when people say dead people are watching over you. No, they’re not, they are not angels, angels are lower beings, they are Saints. Huge difference. My mom is not looking out for me, she is busy worshiping God and being with my dad.

I digress, I had something happen today that was so unexpected. Someone sent me a text to check on me, just a random what can I do to make your day. The text alone made my day, it was unexpected and very welcome. To that person, thank you, that text came just when I needed it. Sometimes we all need someone to just check up on us in life. A simple hello, how are you, what can I do to make your day.

Music Musings

Music. It can bring people together or it can be very polarizing. I have found people have very strong opinions on the music they love. I, myself, am no different, I love music, and I am incredibly eclectic in my musical tastes.

I listen to everything from classical to bluegrass; I don’t care for head banging rock or hard core rap. I do like Led Zeppelin and Snoop Dogg.

I love Motown, disco and of course there is my predilection for boy bands, from The Bay City Roller, The Backstreet Boys and of course who started it all, The Jackson 5.

I’m not crazy about country, but I do have a guilty pleasure in Alabama and Dolly Parton. I also have been known to enjoy Little Texas, Tracy Lawrence and of course Tim McGraw.

I love Vivaldi and anything John Williams does is amazing. Most know him from Star Wars fame, but he is a brilliant composer outside the movie realm as well. Check him out, you will not be disappointed. His music is the type you close your eyes and open your soul and welcome in like a long lost friend.

One of my ultimate favorite pieces in music history was actually used in one of my favorite movies. Avengers Assemble, Schubert: String Quartet 13, it is an incredible piece. Joss Whedon has always been quite brilliant in his musical choices, anyone remember the episode Forever in season 5 of Buffy?

Foreigner is a mainstay in my musical arsenal, as is The Bay City Rollers. I am very fond of Kiss and Van Morrison, we can’t forget Eric Clapton. I have serious heart feelings for Eric Clapton’s work.

There are very few songs I seriously hate. I hesitate to give them here, you see BBFF has a song he loathes and  can never resist sending it to him or posting a link to his facebook page. I know with a certainty if he had this information I would have payback in an epic proportion.

These songs are worse than nails on a chalkboard to me. As a matter of fact I prefer nails on a chalkboard over these two songs. They are sung by the same artist. Surprisingly I like his other work.

I just realized I know nothing Dean Cain’s musical taste. What if we are not compatible in that area!!??? The Humanity! The horror! I need answers

I am off to do research, by for now. As usual you can leave a comment here or send me a missive at

Discount Tire Experience

Here I sit at Discount Tire waiting for two new tires to be installed on my car. A flat was waiting on me after work. Thankfully I have roadside assistance coverage on my insurance plan.

I sit here, with a waiting room full of people waiting on their cars. I am struck by just how isolating our phones are. Every single person is on their phone, either talking on it (one woman doesn’t seem to know her voice is loud) to texting, playing games or watching videos. I, myself, am writing this missive.

I am fascinated by other people’s conversations, the loud woman is discussing underwear shopping, a man is saying I love you to someone. I’m so nosey, I want to ask him is it his wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or perhaps a child. It didn’t seem a romantic I love you. I want to ask the woman who she is shopping for underwear for, the conversation indicated it wasn’t for herself.

I would love to strike up a conversation, ask who are you buying underwear for. But not now. I politely stepped outside to take a call, when I tried to come back in the door was locked. I knocked on the door the loud woman and a few men just stared at me. Now mind you they watched me walk out! It wasn’t like I was an ax wielding crazed madwoman at the door. I might be that now, but I wasn’t when I left.

The man I bought the tires from let me in, one old man (I’m petty now) said they locked you out. I said what was broken on you that you couldn’t open the door. I really want to say to the room at large you people suck.

On the other hand their boorish behavior has given me fodder for my world. Alright, all is forgiven, ax is put away.

Montana, Enterprise and Vulcans, Oh My

Ok, so, I am on season 4 of Star Trek Enterprise and I am getting happier. Although I foresee anger in the future, as there are only 4 seasons of this show.

I still don’t have an answer as to how mind melding became ubiquitous and how they got rid of the MMTD (mind melding transmitted disease). I also am so confused as to why Vulcans are so bent on destroying humans. Granted I am only 4 episodes in, I am loving the relationship between Trip and T’Pol, I find them cute.

T’Pau is a revelation, as she is the one who officiated over Spock’s wedding! Well, almost wedding, crazy nuts seeing her here being a complete Vulcan rebel.

This show is a must watch for every Star Trek fan, as a matter of fact I do believe I need for every person I know to watch this show. I need to discuss this with people!

Captain Archer is quickly becoming one of my favorite captains and Trip one of my favorite engineers.

I am gearing up for my trip to Montana in October, it is a road trip with a friend. She and I will leave on a Saturday evening when she gets off work and travel through Garden of the Gods in Colorado.

I am beyond excited, I believe I will be able to feel God in Montana. I cannot explain it, but I have always felt that way. Since my friend and I eat the same it will make this trip so much easier. We are going to stock up at Costco and I found a hotel that the rooms have small kitchens.

Epic, that is what this will be, we will also have an Instagram page just for the trip. When it gets closer I’ll give you the name and you can follow along. We will be doing live video and posting cool pictures of our journey.

Bye for now, have to continue on my Enterprise journey.

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It’s been 15 years since you got to go home mom, it’s seems longer, yet shorter. There are days I miss you so much my whole heart feels shattered all over again. I know you would tell me how joyous you are in the place you went. Home. With God and your beloved Daddio.

I know you are where you wanted to be since 1993, it took 10 years for you to join him. I know how you grieved until you were able to do so. I don’t begrudge your going, I only wish I had gotten to have you as my mom earlier.

You were so brave to take a child that wasn’t yours by blood and make her your own by love. I’ll miss you until I get to see you again. Please give Michael, Jess and Dad a hug from me.


Your daughter


Entitlement. It’s a word being thrown around a lot lately, and there are some things that people think they are entitled to that they indeed should be getting. Those are not the things I will be discussing here, today, in this missive.

I would like to address the people that believe they are entitled to credits for a service they are not receiving. Now, mind you, if you have not received said service, then you should not have to pay for it. The days it has been down, not any other time frame, not for your lost vacation day waiting for a technician. But for the time actually down, there is a specific calculation used to figure out the credit one should receive.

Please allow me to break it down for you, let’s say for example you pay $30.00 a month for a service. Your services don’t work for 2 days. You are entitled to two days worth of credit, hence $2.00. Not $100.00, not $15.00, but $2.00 is fair and sufficient.

To call a company and tell a person who is trying to help you get one television cable box working that you don’t even pay for, out of the 5 you have, that you deserve hundreds of dollars in credit because you didn’t call the first two days it was not working is the singularly most ludicrous thing I have heard in a while. To say I was flabbergasted is an understatement, then I saw where you lived and it all made sense. Sort of. You see I know someone else who lives in that area and they are a lovely human, who has their cognitive abilities in tact. Then to inform me that you were going to push back on me to force me to give you said credit, once again, ludicrous is the only word I have to completely describe your behavior. When I offered you an avenue to voice your complaints you turn it down. Threatening to go to a different company has very little effect on anyone in my department. You really needed to go to the department I told you to and taken the information. You were the singularly most self-indulgent, self-entitled human I have spoken to in a while. I have one thing to say to you: I am glad I’m not you and I’m glad I don’t live with you.

Enough. If you are one of these people that believe you should be getting something that you are not paying for, or credit above and beyond what you are paying, go to a different company. Better yet, I have a Travis Tritt song for you, if you can guess what that is, good for you. Then you know exactly what I am saying.

Just stop with the buffoonery, I am incredulous that people behave in such a way. Wait, no I’m not, I will tell you this, there are two types of people who exhibit this behavior. I’m not going to say who here, because it isn’t all people in those categories, some are lovely humans. I will say roughly 90% of the people I speak to are really lovely humans.

I often hear that I am the nicest person they have ever spoken to at the company I work for, which is sad. Everyone deserves respect, until they don’t, and even if your complaint isn’t valid, if you convey to me the issue in a calm, respectful manner, I will always listen. I will always tell the truth, it sometimes hurts. Honesty is often like that, it hurts, but is way preferable to subterfuge, lies and deceitfulness. In any endeavor, any business dealing, relationship, friendship, whatever it is, just tell the truth.

One day it may get me fired, but there you have it, the job isn’t worth my immortal soul.

The beginning of August is not the time to mess with me, I do not suffer fools at all during this time frame.

I’m done, I feel better, sometimes one just has to get all of this out of their system.

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Ok, so, I am on season three and we have moved to the Xindi. Whom apparently have 43 different species on their home world. I know earth has a lot of species, however we don’t all get together to annihilate a planet. Granted only the human species is capable of that, for now (planet of the apes anyone?), so there’s that.

What the heck is happening? Earth has been attacked, Florida is basically gone. Trip has lost his sister, if I were there I’d so totally comfort him. It’s just too much! I will persevere. Some very lovely humans on twitter told me I need to plow through to the 4th season, plow I shall.

Did I mention BFF got a BF? Oh, FYI, I take full credit for everyone’s current state of happiness. No false humility here. I digress, so her BF is just about perfect. She casually mentioned she hadn’t had time to get lunch. Literally within 30 minutes a pizza and a coke show up at her office. Now that is a thoughtful human.

I tell that story to say men, step up your game! This does not apply to BBFF, from what my intelligence source has reported, his game is pitch perfect. This applies to the rest of you. Flowers are great and greatly appreciated, but unexpected food, that is just a wow factor that cannot be measured.

I am so living vicariously right now, with both BFF and BBFF.

Speaking of BBFF, he and his GF have a surprise for me, they are going to reveal said surprise on August 20th. They have a presentation. I don’t know if I should be terrified or mildly scared. I’ll keep you updated as events unfold.

That’s all I have for now, will be back soon.

Star Trek Enterprise

I have questions, so many questions, so I am watching Star Trek Enterprise and there are so many questions.

First, time traveling Suluban’s, what??? What is that? And it’s not even that species that is controlling it, it is some shadowy figure that is pulling the strings. I am beginning to understand why I stopped watching.

They travel back from the 31st century to stop something or have something happen, so not sure at this point. I am just irritated. Time travel has been problematic in every incarnation of Star Trek. Kirk trampled all over 20th century earth in the series and in a movie.

What’s up with the Vulcans in this show? Mind Melding is new? What? It wasn’t acceptable behavior? When did it become acceptable? Spock did it all over the place, he mind melded with a silicon based life form! And what is up with it causing a disease? MMTD? Mind Melding Transmitted Disease? What! Spock never infected anyone! And he was doing it with everyone!

I’ll keep watching, I am determined to get to the end of this series, but they have to stop some of this.

I must admit Trip is the cutest thing ever, his accent is nothing short of charming. He really is the Kirk of this enterprise, in the way he charms all of the alien babes.

I do like the characters and i’ve always loved Scott Bakula and who doesn’t love Vulcans.

The Klingons are spot on perfect, the right amount of bravado with the muscle and fire power to back it up.

That’s all I have for now, I am just about to finish season 2. I didn’t get past that the first time around. I plan on plowing through on this one, time travel problems and all.


Today was the day, I love getting my hair done almost more than anything. There’s something about a hair change that makes you think you can take on the world.

When one has the best hair stylist ever that feeling is intensified. I am so happy I decide to try a stylistic Ulta. I found Kaitlynd and that was it. She is amazing, not only does she understand what I want when I vaguely say long layers and low lights, she makes it happen.

Whenever I get up from her chair I feel amazing and like I can conquer the world. Also she makes the time fly, as any woman who gets color can tell you, it is a long process. Kaitlynd is a great conversationalist and fun to talk to. I do believe I told her my whole life story and she didn’t blink.

She had a lot of food insights to the Owasso donkey and she is also keto. So we talked food and coffee additives as well.

So in conclusion, I feel pretty. And really isn’t that the mark of a good stylist? To make their clients feel the best when they get up from the chair and walk out the door.

My weekend is closing, back to work tomorrow for me. My bed is calling, goodnight and may you all find a good hair stylist.

Glitter Soul

My weekend has turned out to be a completely girly weekend. Nails done, with glitter, of course, I have the soul of a 5 year old. I love anything that sparkles, so glitter nails it is. Hair being done today, I have to decide what I want, do I go with highlights again, or have her just dye it all back to my natural color, I know the cut, it’s just color that I am having a hard time deciding. I have repotted one plant and potted another that I have been rooting for a while now. All in all, kind of productive, I am now looking for a cookie recipe that is keto friendly.

Yes, folks, I am taking my diet keto, I did it years ago and it was highly effective. Of course back then it was Atkins, now it has evolved. Atkins has so many products out but looking at their carb content they are not going to put anyone into ketosis. I bought a book and am learning new things, I do believe I will make avocado, chocolate pudding later today. I’ll let you know how it turns out.

Ok, so, BBFF and his GF have a surprise for me, they are going to do a presentation to tell me what said surprise is. Since they are both evil geniuses I am a little trepidatious, I will tell you I know it will not physically harm me. They are not Lex Luthor evil genius, more like a fun evil genius type. Maybe Loki would be a better example, maybe not, I’ll let you know when I decide. August 20 is the reveal date, I’ll keep you updated.

Nothing really new in my world, it is easy to keep a no dating rule when one stays to their routine. Work and home, Target, Costco and Whole Foods thrown in for good measure. Bookstores as well, not a lot of chances to meet anyone. I am keeping it that way, with the amount of pain I have endured with past relationships I in no way want to subject myself to any of that ever again.

Except perhaps with Dean Cain, he is my litmus at this time, I should have stuck with that ten years ago. It would have saved me a lot of horrendous trauma in my life. After all he is the prettiest man alive and I believe could hold his own in an intelligent conversation without resorting to screaming and swearing. I do believe I could have an intelligent exchange of ideas with Dean. After my initial fan girl reaction of course.

Barring him showing up at my front door, alone I shall remain, happily so. Although if anyone knows anyone who looks like Dean and can converse like Dean please give him my number. Or just bring him to my house, since I really don’t like leaving it these days.

On a nerd update, after finishing off Star Trek Discovery I am now watching Star Trek Enterprise. I watched it when it came out, but I stopped watching after the second season. It was moved around a lot and it was the days before DVR’s were ubiquitous. It is fun getting to know the crew of the first Enterprise. I love Scott Bakula, watching him as Captain Archer is a delight. I am signing off now to continue my nerd fest until I need to leave my house for my hair appointment. Perhaps I will post a picture after my hair is done here. I haven’t done that in a while. Perhaps time for an update.

Enjoy your Saturday, make the most of your day and have an intelligent discourse with someone. It will only enhance your day, remember, no yelling or screaming allowed, and not everyone has to share the same opinion as you. They are not stupid if they don’t think like you and if you listen with an open heart and mind you might just learn something. That goes for everyone.

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