Talent and Eye Talk

So my granddaughter writes, she has been writing stories since she could hold a pencil. She has dozens of journals that she writes in, every time she is with me and we go to the store she gets a new one. Along with mechanical pencils, she is just like her Uncle Alex in that regard, he loved mechanical pencils.

I have never read anything she has written until now, I had told her I would love to read one of her stories when she was ready to let me read one. Yesterday she sent me the link to her google docs and gave permission for me to read them. 

They are private, not anyone can read them, she had to give permission, which is fabulous for her age. There are too many ugly people on the internet for a child her age to be public. 

I digress, I eagerly opened the first one and started reading, she is good, really good, she writes fiction. This is something I could never master, and I have tried. She is really good, I mean like she should be published good. 

I am blown away by her talent, it is God given and I pray she continues to write her entire life. My mom would be so proud, she was a writer as well, she could write fiction, it is a talent and a gift to be able to do that, not so many people are so blessed.

May try, which is why we have books that are not so good, but that is ok, I truly believe if that is your passion and you can make a living off of it, good for you.

I am so excited for her future, I look forward to seeing where this talent takes her.

On another front, I had one of my famous accidents this week. I was sitting at my desk working away when I dropped something on the floor, I went to pick it up and like a fool, did not get out of my chair to do so, I thought to myself I can just lean over and do this. Well, as you can guess, I leaned wrong and slowly tipped the whole chair over, taking with me a side cabinet. 

I wasn’t injured just happy to be working at home where no one could see me. I don’t even know what I was thinking, leaning over the arm rests was the mistake. Accident prone Angie strikes again, nothing injured but my ego, that has a nasty bruise.

On another note, yesterday I went to the ophthalmologist, for the 4th year in a row my eyesight has improved. The glasses I have now had become blurry and have been giving me headaches. It was time to have my eyes examined, so off I went. 

He also said that it was time to take supplements for my eyes, he said to take Lutein + Zeaxanthin, I had never heard of this. But upon researching this supplement I found it does help strengthen eye health and staves off cataracts. He said that it was very inexpensive and he was right, even at Whole Foods it was less than $15.00. He said at Wal-Mart it is less than $10.00. I was going to WF’s on my way home so I just got it there. 

If you are over 50 I do suggest you take this supplement for eye health. We can never be too careful with our eyes, seeing is very important. 

That is all I have for now, it is Red River Shootout time, so Boomer Sooner! As usual any comments, questions or criticisms can be left here or sent to me at angie@angieworld.com.

Adoption Rant

So I was on Facebook and saw something that made me incredibly angry. So much so I felt the need to rant about it. This was on the DNA page that I follow, a woman said that she told her brother that their dad was adopted. He asked how long she had known this and she said two years. Two years she kept this information to herself, then she presented him with a DNA test and told him to take it. He declined and said he needed time to think about this, he was upset that his dad had never told him he was adopted. 

Apparently the dad didn’t tell the daughter either, she discovered this information on her own. This in itself did not anger me, there is so much wrong here, but it rests on the sister. Upon discovery she should have called her brother and said hey you know how I am into genealogy, well I did a DNA test and it turns out dad was adopted. He may not have known, back then no one talked about it, the children that were adopted had no idea. She should not have said here take a DNA test either, what the heck.

Here is what angered me, one person said of course he’s angry his grandpa is not his grandpa and his cousins are not his cousins.

This is pure crap, I am adopted, granted by relatives, however, my brothers are still my brothers, my sister still my sister and my parents are still my parents. My nephews and niece are still those things in my family tree. As a matter of fact in our official family tree I appear twice, and I think that is really cool. I love that about me, I love that I was adopted, of course I knew I was adopted.

When you discover shocking news like this a softer approach should be the norm, not the exception. And she should have called him and not waited two years.

Instead of presenting him with a DNA test, why not ask would you like to take a test to find out more information? It’s just common sense and a kindness, now the brother has been blindsided with information that he didn’t know, didn’t ask for and is rightfully upset and needs to process.

He still has his relatives, to suggest otherwise is disingenuous and wrong. Adoption does not negate relationships, instead it makes it richer, more nuanced. The dad’s parents wanted a child, someone could not raise theirs, so they allowed someone else to raise said child.

No one understands how hard this is on the birth mothers, what a difficult decision this is, instead of killing the child in utero, they gave birth and handed the child to someone else to raise.

It was taboo so many years ago to talk about, the birth mothers were sent off to give birth, never to talk about it again. They were shunned if they did, it left a lot of psychological scars for the women. 

I believe that needs to be recognized, let’s praise these women for their selflessness, it would be easier to kill the baby in utero than give birth and never see that child again.

For the love of all that is holy, do not say you are not related to the family that adopted a baby. You are related, it is legal, it is like a marriage, you are related to the family you marry into. Even after divorce, in a lot of cases you still love your in-laws, the nieces and nephews from that side, they are still your family.

I’m done ranting, it’s Saturday and I am contemplating a trip to Costco, I know, that does make me crazy.

Oh, and hello China! I really wish you would leave a comment or send me an email to let me know what you are looking for, I could write about it and answer all questions. As usual any comments, criticisms or questions can be left here or sent to angie@angieworld.com.

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