Arizona Dreaming

We finally made it to Arizona, our final destination, see what I did there. First of all Arizona is beautiful and I love how they did the architecture, it blends so well with the natural beauty of the surroundings.

We decided on an Airbnb instead of a hotel. This is the first time I have ever used Airbnb, I wasn’t disappointed, it was in a good location and clean. It also had a full kitchen and a laundry closet.

Stormie and I went for a walk every morning, she loved it and I loved the scenery. The one thing that struck me was all of the orange trees, they were everywhere. The homeless there just grab and go, orange peels everywhere. At least they won’t have scurvy, also the enormous aloe Vera plants everywhere, I wanted to dig one up and bring it home with me.

Why Arizona you ask. Well, I’ll tell you, Shay’s oldest son and his wife live there. They were having their first child together. Shay asked if I wanted to go on a road trip with her to see the baby. I said can we stop in Roswell? She said yes, I said I’m all in. So that’s how it happened, her sons call me Auntie, so I wanted to go anyway.

We also went on several adventures to see the area we were in. Hiking and nature are a must in such beautiful surroundings. Stormie loves it and she loves all humans except for one.

My nephew has a bonus daughter from this relationship as well. She is adorable and couldn’t say my name, it came out Aunt Barbie. So I taught her the Barbie World song. Her parents can thank me later.

I loved visiting but no way could I live there. The heat would absolutely kill me, I don’t care that it is a dry heat. It is still heat and I hate the heat. So, Montana and Alaska still in the running, along with Florida. I know it’s hot there as well, but I seem to tolerate it better in FL.

I hope everyone has had a great week, it’s been rough getting back in the swing of things but I have persevered and today is my Friday. I hope you all have had a great week and have a fantastic weekend.

The one who named me Aunt Barbie.
Aunt Barbie and The baby
Just a woman and her best friend
Shay contemplating doing something she shouldn’t. 😂
My baby in a fox pool.
Land of the lost

Alien Invasion?

We started our journey Saturday evening, I know most people start their travels during the morning hours. However, my bestie Shay, works on Saturday, so we left after she got off work. By the time she left work then got to my house and transferred her stuff from her car to the Jeep we left about 5 pm.

We made it to Lubbock, we were really hoping to make it to New Mexico but it took 7 hours to get to Lubbock and we were exhausted. We found a pet friendly hotel and stopped for the night. Have I mentioned I took my Husky with us? Why yes I did, she is officially a traveling Husky.

The next morning we drove the rest of the way to Roswell, New Mexico. This stop was for me, I have always wanted to go there because, well, aliens. I loved the show Roswell the show from the late ‘90’s early 2000’s. Not the new one, that one is a discombobulated mess. The original is best.

Roswell did not disappoint, so many places were super pet friendly. Even the Alien Museum! I was pleasantly surprised. Stormie did great, she loved everything and was well behaved. The only sad part is there is no Crash Down diner in Roswell. We were both disappointed about that.

After exploring Roswell we continued our drive and discovered a pistachio wonderland! Just sitting there in the middle of nowhere. I also found a new boyfriend. He’s very accommodating and a great listener.

After buying things that are not on the approved eating list we made our way to Las Cruces, NM. What a beautiful city! We decided to spend the night there and make our way to Arizona the next day. I hope you enjoy some pictures from our time with the aliens!

Enterprise Ellie

In the beginning there was a car rental place. We decided it would be better to rent an SUV instead of putting mileage on my friends vehicle or mine. Plus taking my dog we needed extra space.

Saturday I show up to the car rental place, I don’t know how many of you are familiar with renting a vehicle, what you do is go online and tell them what type of vehicle you want. Sedan, SUV, compact and so on, they do not guarantee a specific make and model. The location I went to was a satellite office. That means they had a smaller selection. I’m telling all of this to explain what happened next.

A woman, well call her Enterprise Ellie, was at the counter soundly berating the young man behind the counter. She said that he told her she could have a specific make and mode, he calmly said that he would never do that as it is against their policy. She then goes on to call him a liar and here is where she really caught my attention, she says she works for the same company that I do! So then I really looked at her and realize I know who she is. She works in the same building as I, I don’t know her name but I know who she is.

What I do know of her is she is filled with anger and hatred, I have overheard some really outrageous things from her. At times we both sit in the same courtyard here at work. She is always on the phone saying really awful things.

On this day she told the young man that he was not going to prosper and she was calling corporate and getting him fired. She also mentioned social media, she very literally would not stop. She then got on the phone and started telling anyone who’s would listen that the young man was not going to prosper and kept saying the name of the company we both work for.

I told the young man to to worry about it because I have twitter as well and I had already sent him a shout out. He was calm and collected and never rude. He needs a raise. I cannot imagine carrying around so much anger that I take it out on someone young and threatening their livelihood. Who does that?

I wish I knew this woman’s name, I would totally give it to my third line and tell him what happened.

It goes against our code of business conduct to behave that way in public while invoking the name of our company. It’s one thing to behave like a donkey it’s another to drag the company along with you.

So, Enterprise Rental, don’t listen to the woman who went to the Plano, TX location. She’s certifiable.

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Stormie’s Adventure

I was going to start at the beginning of our adventure, mine and my bestie Shay. However, something happened today that I need to write about. After that I’ll begin at the begun.

We decided to go hiking this morning at one of Phoenix’s parks. It was a beautiful mountain and a beautiful morning. As most of you know I have a gorgeous, lovable goofball of a Husky named Stormie.

She loves all humans and animals alike, or so I thought. We start up the trail, several people stop and tell me how beautiful she is, ask to pet her and she is very obliging. In my experience with Huskies, they love attention. Will preen and prance when they believe they are the center of said attention.

As we are walking up a woman is coming towards us, Stormie freaks out, starts cowering and backing up. She actually manages to to wriggle out of her harness. And takes off like a shot, she was terrified of that woman.

Now I may have been listening to too much Dateline, but I believe an animal when they tell me someone is evil. I don’t know what Storm sensed in that woman but she was terrified. I wanted to ask that woman what was wrong with her but I was too busy chasing a freaked out husky.

We finally got her, I jumped in the Jeep and drove to where she finally stopped. I opened the back drivers door and she jumped in as nice as you please. I have tightened her harness and that will not happen again.

Believe an animal when they tell you a human isn’t trustworthy.

Trash TV

When I was sick i watched a lot of trash television, I have a confession to make, I love trash tv! Mostly Lauren Lake’s paternity court, what I am about to say may offend some. If it does, perhaps you should rethink your life choices.

There was a young man on there, roughly 21, 22 years old, who didn’t know who his father was. His mother had always told him it was one man, it turns out that man was not his father.

There was a choice of 8 men, 8, yes, 8, I’m sorry, the window of conception is just a few days, and if you have had unprotected sex with 8 different men in that time frame. Well, rethink your life choices, now there is a young man who doesn’t know who his father is and you don’t know who his father is. you are just guessing and now he has to track down 8 different men from over 20 years ago.

I have no words for this, the devastation the was the reality for this young man was disturbing to watch.

I don’t understand that many partners in that few of days and unprotected. She’s lucky all she got was a baby out of that, she’s lucky she didn’t get a disease.

I’m sorry but if you are doing that, rethink your lifestyle please, there is nothing empowering about that kind of promiscuity. The risks are just not worth it, I’m not talking about a baby, I’m talking disease, a disease that could alter your whole life. You could die. That is no exaggeration, you could die, so please, whoever you are stop it. Lauren Lake is awesome, she told the young man she was not stopping until she found his biological father so he could have answers. She was going to be his advocate in all of this.

ok, preaching time is over, Saturday begins a whole new adventure for my sister and I. We are traveling to Arizona via Roswell, this is Stormie’s proving ground. We’ll see if she can ferret out any aliens. Cute ones please, no predator stuff, just Kryptonians, Asgardians or Vulcans please.

I didn’t tell my sis this, but I do believe I read somewhere Dean Cain’s brother’s band plays somewhere in Arizona. Perhaps a side trip is in order, shhhhh don’t tell.

I am very excited, I have never been to Arizona or Roswell. I am trying to go somewhere I’ve never been at least once a year. Last year was Universal Studios, I had never been there. The year before was Austin and Montana, I am thinking Vegas for the next adventure. I’ve never been there either.

Somewhere in the next winter I want to go somewhere cold, I want to go where the snow is. I am going to have to plan something.

I’ve never been to Tahoe, I understand they get snow, and it is beautiful there.

I’m going now, I need some sleep, I woke with a horrible headache about three this morning and couldn’t go back to sleep.

oh, our trip Instagram, if you want to follow along is @toffeeandwhippedcream2018 we will be chronicling our trip there, also our Montana adventure is on there as well.

Happy Birthday to Me

Today is my birthday, it is an almost perfect day, I say almost as it is cold but there is no snow. Only snow would make it perfection oh and a happy birthday from Dean. But here we are, a cold dreary day, there is not a lot more I could ask for. 

Thankfully I am much better, the only thing lingering is the cough, that horrible cough. That is happening even while I type this missive.

I took myself to the movies yesterday, I decided to see Birds of Prey. It was ok, a little heavy handed on the men bad, women brave theme. But the action was fun and Harley Quinn on roller-skates was a nice touch for this ex roller disco queen.

Turning 56 is nothing new from 55, I wonder when it happens, the slowing down, the achy joints for no reason. Does it happen for all people as they age? Or only some of them? The only thing that slowed my dad down was his heart, he never complained of achy joints or made grandpa noises when he got up from a chair. Since I am so much like him (through osmosis) I like to think I inherited that from him.

Also my grandmother (by blood) was 98 when she passed away and the only thing that slowed her down was a broken hip at 96. Since I don’t have brittle bones I don’t foresee a broken hip and I will tell you after my 3rd injection of vitamin B12 I am finally feeling it. I feel energized, like ready to go, it is a heady feeling and my fingers are practically flying over the keyboard as I sit and write this. Ok that last part has always happened, I’m a fast typer, typist, typologist, whatever.

My birthday weekend started off with a family dinner at Jeffrey and Amanda’s house. They cooked! It was lovely, Mexican food, I do love my Mexican food. As usual the conversation was lively, and Elicia brought dessert, she brought me keto cupcakes! Two of them, I saved one for today, so I could have cake on my birthday.

I love those dinners, with all of us, my children are all so funny, smart and quick witted. I am in awe of them and their successes, sometimes I still can’t believe I got chosen to be their mom.

I am going to include a picture of me at this age. I try to do it every year, an unfiltered, unadulterated look at myself the way I am in this very season. I still think God did really good work with me. He and I have an agreement, He allows me to retain my looks and I don’t kill people. It has worked well so far, I do believe He knows me and knows what I can handle in the aging process.

Also I watched a series on Netflix called Dirty John, every single woman needs to watch this. Wow, this did actually happen and I have no doubt it happens on the daily. This actually convinced me more than ever dating apps are not for me. Don’t get me wrong, I do believe they work for a lot of people. I have hard evidence to that fact, however, with the kind of luck I have with men, this story would totally happen to me.

That’s all I have for now, I hope you have a great day, I know I will!


Dean Cain for my Birthday?

I’ve lived in the DFW (Dallas/Fort Worth) area since 1987, the entire time I have lived here there is a store I have been dying (you’ll see what I did there later) to go into.

The reason I mention it is I passed it again today, I rarely pass it because it is in Dallas and I live 36 miles from this particular store. But on my way to get my vitamin B shot today I passed it and thought man, I really want to go in there to shop.

It is a casket store, I really want to go in and pick out my casket for when the time comes. When I talk about funerals the majority of the people think I am macabre, and they don’t like to talk about it.

I have been going to funerals since I was little, I’ve been to a lot of them. My mom would say things like oh don’t do that at my funeral or I like that, do that.

The greatest gift we can give the ones left behind is to have our funerals planned and paid for. Both of my parents did this, it was such a relief off of all of our shoulders to be able to just focus on grieving. And remembering our parents, everything was chosen, from the casket to the songs. The funeral plots chosen and paid for, no having to choose, no having to guess at what they wanted.

I will tell you that they had done this so long ago that by the time it was my mom’s turn to go home the casket she had chosen was no longer available.

That was a phone call I won’t forget, my sister called me and told me, that the casket our mother picked out was no longer available. I said ok, can we pick out something comparable, she said I don’t know Jesse went. Our brother, I said ok, she said I just know he’s going to pick out something in hot pink. Huge sigh, ok, I am 5 hours away, you are literally 10 minutes from the funeral home. Besides that, Jesse’s sister in law Helen, works there, she will not allow him to pick out anything that would dishonor our mother.

She hangs up after much debate, then 30 minutes later called me back and said Jesse had done a great job, he chose a soft pink casked. Which was our mother’s favorite color.

So besides that hiccup, we had a beautiful send off that was everything she wanted. And we could greive without worrying about what to do or trying to guess at what she wanted.

Having said all of that I have been sick this week and thought I was going to die, again. It started Tuesday right after work, I had been coughing all day, the minute I got into my car I started shaking uncontrollably, I barely made it home, I could not get warm, even with the heat on full blast.

Today, Friday, I feel human, I am still coughing but my fever is gone and the headache is gone. That was a rough one, I don’t want to do that again.

Next up, my birthday!! Who still gets excited about their own birthday? Me. Everyone should, it is the day you made your appearance on this earth.

My daughter, Elizabeth Anne, called me, this is how that conversation went:

Elizabeth Anne: Mom what do you want for your birthday?

Me: Dean Cain

EA: biggest sigh ever, Mother, please be realistic.

Me: He’s coming to Dallas.

Fast forward to yesterday, I open my email and I have one from the Dallas Fan Expo, you have a gift from Elizabeth, it is the VIP package for the Expo!

Not only will Dean be there but also Terri Hatcher, I have said it before, she is my favorite Lois Lane.

I have been reading the comics and watching all incarnations of Superman/Clark Kent and Lois Lane, I fancy myself a bit of an expert.

When I was a little girl Lois Lane captured my imagination, Intrepid Girl Reporter. Her character is what led me to major in journalism in college. I really hope the both of them do a panel together, that would really be something.

Also two of my twitter peeps might be there as well! The same ones I met up with in Tulsa, how much fun would that be!

That’s all I have for now, I have some chores to do before going to pick up Tess from school then it is my birthday dinner at Jeffrey and Amanda’s with all of my kids, granddaughter and bonus grands!

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Happy Birthday Izzy Anne

On this day in 1989 a great thing happened, Elizabeth Anne made her appearance on this earth.

Happy Birthday to my beautiful daughter, I love that I share my birthday month with you.

I knew you were a girl before the sonogram, I felt it with every fiber of my being. I asked God for a daughter with long dark hair and dark eyes and He delivered.

On the day that you were born it was a sunny day, your dad and I went into the hospital wearing shorts. I had bought you the cutest going home outfit in Florida.

By the time you were born that night it was a raging ice storm, you were born during one of my favorite happenings on earth. Cold, ice, snow and all that entails, the only problem was your going home outfit was for sunny Florida.

You came home wearing your brothers hand-me-downs as I didn’t have winter girl clothes. Your dad also had to bring me winter clothes, I couldn’t go home wearing shorts, I would have literally died.

You were absolutely perfect, beautiful, alert and ready for the world. The only question, was the world ready for you?

I know your brother wasn’t, when you started crawling you went straight for his room. Thus began a war, I still don’t know who won, I think it has been a draw.

I love you so much, you have done so much in your life, accomplished so much. I am so proud of you and the person you have become.

I only wish my dad, your grandpa could see you, he would be so proud of you. The way you have with animals reminds me so much of him and my grandpa, your great-grandpa. They both had such a way with animals and the land, you have inherited that from them.

I love your feistiness, your determination, your strength and your heart. You are beyond everything I asked God for in a daughter.

Happy Birthday my amazing girl, I love you to the moon and back.



Stark Realities

I love trees without their leaves, their stark beauty is a striking contrast to the skies. They are vulnerable, without their covering, left to the elements. 

I think we all feel that way at times, vulnerable without our armor. Armor for humans these days can be physical or metaphysical. 

Some people (like me) use humor, sarcasm, makeup and Dean Cain as a barrier, to keep people at bay. No matter what the situation, keeping people at arms length takes talent and skill.

I am very skilled at it, people think they know me, when in actuality they know what I want them to know. It always amazes me when assumptions are made about me.

Perhaps I’ll tell you a little about myself today, I am a loner by nature that is a people person at heart. Although these days, due to the job that I have, I prefer the company of my Fatty Catty aka Ronald aka FatCatstard and my lovable furry companion Stormie to a lot of people on the planet earth.

This does not include my family or close friends, it is the population at large. You see in my line of work I get to see how people react when their internet, tv or phone doesn’t work. Some of these I get, some I do not, however it still makes me wary of the population at large.

On the other hand, I love getting to know people, I love asking questions, I love hearing the answers. We are all so different, yet the same, I have found over the years that we all want a better future for our children. We all want something better for them than we ourselves had as children. For the most part, some people had a great childhood and had everything that they wanted or needed and now do not find the need to drive their children to success. I don’t personally know those people, bur I am sure they exist.

Over the years I have found some of my best times found in the pages of books. Characters that speak to me, teach me, frighten me or make me want to be a better version of myself.

My mother was always my touchstone, she always made me want to be a better version of myself. I miss her to this day, some days I feel rudderless, no long term goals, and I’m too old to feel that way. One is supposed to have long term goals at my age.

A coworker and I were talking the other day, I complimented her outfit, she said that her mentor had told her to dress for the job she wanted, not the one she has.

We all hear that, the memes about dressing as Wonder Woman are funny.

I thought about it, the job I would love is writing, so sitting at home, in my bathrobe, writing about things I know, hmmmm. Maybe there is something there, maybe I should show up in my pajamas and robe. However I am thinking that would not be well recieved. Of course we are not physically customer facing, so one never knows.

I have a suspicion that I would end up in a conversation with our HR person. She would not be amused, so I guess I’ll stick to my boots, sweaters and leggings for now. Spring is fast approaching here in North Texas, then it shall be wedges and sundresses. 

Ok, so, Dean Cain is coming to town, here, in my neck of the woods so to speak. The question is, do I go and meet him again? I have no doubt he doesn’t remember me, he meets so many people. Or do I spend my money elsewhere, since I have met him once, do I need to meet him again? Oh don’t get me wrong, I still love him, but the thing is, and there is always a thing, it is stupid expensive and the price doesn’t include any panel’s, meet and greets, selfies, pictures or autographs. Those are extra, the VIP package is over $400.00. I have to be honest for that amount of money someone is coming home with me and cooking and cleaning for me. I need a meal for that amount of money, maybe they could even walk the husky, not a euphemism, I have a husky, Stormie, that needs to be walked. 

I have things planned this year that cost money, a trip to Arizona, I would like to go to Disney World and see the Star Wars park. I really want to stay in the Star Wars hotel. That is pretty pricey, so it begs the question, do I spend the money or not. I am thinking not, it’s too much and I can’t justify it.

I could justify the Tulsa one as part of the proceeds went to charity. None go to charity at this one.

That’s all I have for now, I will include pictures of the trees I spotted on one of my walks. They are incredibly beautiful.

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I love how this tree looks like it is painting the sky