Lose, Lost, Loose, Losing, Loosen Rant

I am highly agitated, I have been for years regarding this one issue. One. It is something I can’t fix as it is not my problem. This is going to cost me a few friendships I fear, trudge on I shall.

Here it is straight from Miriam Webster:

“Many people use the word loose when they mean lose, and vice versa, potentially creating confusion for the reader. (The past tense is lost. I lost my keys yesterday.) loose (“loose” = a harder “suh” sound) is normally an adjective, meaning baggy, not tight.

Loosing is not correct when saying, for example: I am loosing weight, it should be I am losing weight. Please stop. I just need everyone to stop saying that or typing it.

I see it everywhere on Facebook, instagram and Twitter. Even in articles, does grammar and English classes not exist anymore? I’m so confused because people older than I are doing this as well.

Stop it! Please! I beg you for my sanity. I saw it again just this morning in a weight loss forum.

I feel so much better having gotten that out of my system. I leave you with this: lose, lost, loose, losing, loosen. I am going to lose weight, I am losing weight, loosen my belt I’ll need to after my binge in Florida. I feel as loose as a goose after having unloaded my burden.

SPOILER ALERT

This is a spoiler alert, my thoughts on Captain Marvel. I’ve heard varying opinions regarding this entry in the Marvel Universe.

Some were thrilled, some were meh, some were disappointed. As you know, I am a comic book fan, I have been since I was a kid. I remember getting my first one at the age of 4, it was Superman, I went on to the Fantastic 4, Wonder Woman, Batman, X-Men and beyond.

Through comic books I’ve traveled to Wakanda, Themyscira, Gotham, Smallville and Metropolis. I’ve flown the skies with Superman, written news stories with Lois Lane, I say all of this to let you know I am not a flyby fan. See what I did there?

I liked this movie, I liked how they portrayed Carol Danvers, I liked this origin story.

Once again, we have an actress that looks like she is having fun playing a hero. Much like Gal Gadot’s Wonder Woman, Brie Larson’s Captain Marvel is fun to watch.

I can’t wait to watch her in Endgame, as you know I’m not a huge fan of the whole girl power anthem. I’m all about people power, I believe this movie had all of the power equally dispersed.

Yes, Carol Danvers has a lot of power and she does save the day, she doesn’t do it alone. She even has a cat helping her, sorry, not a cat, a Flerken.

That actually answered a lot of questions within my own household. Fat Catstard is not a mere cat, he is a Flerken. He has to be, he’s not an average cat.

I am endorsing this movie, it is a fine entry in the Marvel family. And if you can watch the opening credits without getting misty, well, you are a stronger person than I.

As usual, any comments, questions or criticisms can be left here or sent to me at angie@angieworld.com.

Final Florida Adventure

As I continued to eat my way through Florida we went to Universal Studios. It was a choice between Disney World or Universal, since Elizabeth Anne and I had both been to Disney we chose Universal. She is a huge Harry Potter fan and I have read all of the books. So off we went.

It was so much fun, the Wizarding World of Harry Potter was a blast. Elizabeth Anne was literally like a kid in a candy shop. We rode the rides, ate the food and had the butter beer.

As our plane landed back in Dallas I realized I had in fact ate my way through Florida. I have paid a heavy price (pun not intended), a cleanse was in order. Detoxing is hard, I have been drinking a concoction of apple cider vinegar, grapefruit oil and water.

I regret nothing. I’d do it all over again, it was a much needed getaway from everything. Even dieting.

I have come to certain conclusions, I think I need to live 6 months in Florida and 6 months in Montana. In reality I’ll never live anywhere other than Texas. In all honesty I can’t leave my children and granddaughter. I love them all so much, the thought that they couldn’t just pop in whenever or that I couldn’t pick up Tess from school is not a pleasant one. So Texas it is, however, traveling to those states for further visits is definitely on the table.

I so need to go back to Orlando and visit Disney for the new Star Wars rides. Perhaps stay in the Star Wars hotel is in order.

International People Day

I thought I would take a detour from chronicling the Florida adventure, yesterday was International Women’s Day, I have some thoughts on that.

I am all for celebrating women, sisterhood, girl power or whatever you would like to call it. The women who have shaped my life are nothing short of amazing, from my grandmother to my mother, aunts, cousins, close family friends and my friends.

I have to wonder why we don’t see the same posts on International Men’s Day. Does anyone know when that is without googling it? I didn’t. I had to google it, let’s face it, in today’s society men are getting a bad rap.

Men are all painted with the same brush, if they are too masculine they are processed under toxic masculinity. Metro-sexual? Too girly, not tough enough, they really can’t win. Too nerdy? Too brainy? They are loners and labeled losers.

It is a sad society we live in when all people are not celebrated. Men and women and all of our glorious differences.

I have both a daughter and two sons, I celebrate all of their differences. I have sons who work in very masculine fields, the automotive industry, they are very much men. Yet they have a nerdy side, an intellectual side and nurturing side. They are well-rounded, but from an outsider looking in, they are filled with “toxic” masculinity.

I seriously hate that term, I, for one, like men who hunt, work with their hands and who can also talk about Star Wars, Star Trek, comic book heroes and mythology.

The most important thing for a man or woman to be is themselves. Who God made them to be, whether that is a geek, nerd, mechanic, doctor, lawyer, landscapers, CEO, whatever they become in their chosen careers, celebrate them.

Look at a person’s soul, their innate goodness, their belief in God. That is what we should be celebrating, we should be together on this earth, not working against each other. Not marching against each other, not throwing barbs at each other, embrace our differences.

I would suggest this one thing, this week, have a conversation with someone you think you have nothing in common with. I do believe you will find you have more in common than in difference.

If you are a white-collar worker, find a blue-collar one, shake their hand, thank your mechanic for keeping your car running. Thank your plumber for keeping your pipes working. Thank your tech support person for keeping your network networking.

We all are valuable in the greater good of society, stop pretending certain work is more valuable than others. If we all coalesced and worked together how much better would we all be.

Any questions, comments or criticisms can be left here or sent to me at angie@angieworld.com. Oh and if they are mean-spirited or insulting, please remember this is Angie World and I do have the final say on what is published here. It is a monarchy, not a democracy or constitutional republic.

Florida Adventure Part II

And now for the rest of the story. Saturday was the reason for the visit to Florida. The wedding.

This wedding was amazing, the bride is the daughter of very dear friends of mine. We have been friends for 30 years. Being able to see their only daughter get married was an honor. I was incredibly humbled to have received the invitation. Elizabeth Anne and I were looking forward to this event and we were not disappointed.

The bride was absolutely glowing, the groom was beaming, it was perfect. I do have to say one of my favorite parts of the evening was the father of the brides speech. It was poignant, sweet and just when the tears were gathering, funny.

The bride is the only daughter with 4 brothers, I cannot imagine the bravery of the groom. He has to be someone special to wade into that, not only did he wade, he swam and has flourished. Watching them all this weekend I know without a doubt the queen has indeed met her king. I foresee a lifetime of great joy.

The next day the festivities continued at the home of my friends. Elizabeth and I stayed twelve hours. I’m pretty sure they thought we were just going to move in. It was a difficult decision, but eventually we made our way back to the hotel.

Monday was Universal Studios, we had originally thought Disney, but Elizabeth Anne is a huge Harry Potter fan and wanted to go to the Wizarding World of Harry Potter. So off we went, the next adventure in our Florida stay.

Stay tuned for the rest of the story.

Florida Adventures

The Florida adventure has begun! I have to say I am a little prejudiced, Florida is one my favorite states. It has been since my first visit in 1988. Every time I come here I am in complete awe of the beauty of the state. It has charm, quirkinesses and perfect weather, at least perfect weather in March.

I am, self-admittedly a cold weather girl, I always have been, but there is something about palm trees with a balmy breeze that draws me in.

We started with an early flight, taking off at 6am, central time. That meant leaving my house by 3:30 am at the latest. So Stormie went to her home away from home the night before. Thank goodness for Sassy Tails pet sittings flexibility.

The flight was booked solid, every seat taken. No drama, no on kicked off, Southwest was great.

My travel companion, Elizabeth Anne, is the perfect travel buddy. She is funny, even with traffic frustrations and a good navigator.

We get to Orlando, get our rental car and off we go. We dropped our luggage off at the hotel then on to Tampa to visit with her Granpa Reno and Granma Mike (not spelled incorrectly, that is how my children say those words). And why yes, I did say I went with her to civet my ex-in-laws, I genuinely love them. They are the grandparents of my children and I think they are pretty terrific people.

We get to the area they live and it is just delightful. Quirky, beautiful and peaceful, I can totally see why they chose to live there in the winter months. They very generously took us to lunch. Great conversation, laughter and awesome food. Florida is the place for amazing seafood.

We left them in what we thought was plenty of time to get back to our hotel, freshen up and make it to a wedding festivity, we did not, what should have taken us 2 hours took over 4. I seriously have never seen anything like it. That pry was no bueno, but we persevered. We made it back to our hotel and crashed for the night.

Tonight is the whole reason for our sojourn, wedding time! Very excited. Can not wait to see my friends daughter walk down the aisle and marry the love of her life. This is one of my favorite families and I am so happy they invited us to share in this day.

We are here until Tuesday. So many more adventures to be had in that time. More later. I am going to finish my coffee and go back to the hotel. Which is seriously beautiful. I highly recommend the Waldorf Astoria to anyone who is coming to Orlando.

Killer Queen if you Please

So I finally saw Bohemian Rhapsody, I loved it, but it felt rushed. Like it should have been a 6 part documentary, but I understand why they did it the way they did. I thought Rami Malek did an excellent job of bringing Freddie Mercury back to us for a short time. He captured his essence and his singing.

Of course I had to download Queen’s greatest hits and have been playing them since. I had forgotten how many hits they really had and how much fun it is to sing those songs. How much they allow me to time travel, they are so the soundtrack to my misspent youth.

So big happenings on the Dean front, this past week he liked two of my tweets. I know, right! Two!

Yes, I know, this is crazy talk and I am strangely good with it.

A few months back someone asked me if it has to be Dean, my answer was for now it does. You see I am damaged and Dean Cain is safe. The odds of me actually meeting him are pretty slim and of him actually being attracted to me is even slimmer. So he is safe, I can say I am going to marry Dean Cain and I know it will not happen. I am safe, I can live my life alone, never tempting any sort of ego bruising or actually feelings. What are those?

I don’t know if it will always be Dean, but for now he is my safety, he has been since 1993.

It started when I was first divorced, I was a single mom with three kids and three jobs and full time college. I didn’t have time to date, however, people still felt the need to call me out on not dating.

So I would say, i’ll date when Superman shows up at my front door, by Superman I mean Dean Cain. I mean seriously, he was and still is the prettiest man I have ever seen in my entire life. And Dean shirtless in Lois and Clark, well, that was a sight to behold.

So he has been my safety net since 1993, and when I did let him go, well it was disastrous, I think we can all agree on that. My life was a fiasco, and I refuse to have a fiasco again, no thank you.

I’ll sign off for now, Killer Queen is playing and I must sing it at the top of my lungs and dance with the dog.

Spanx Thoughts

I love reading all comments on Facebook adds. I know it sounds crazy, but people are funny. The dating ones are among my favorite. The women are brutal, because of course none of the men on the dating apps look like the ones in the advertisements.

Another that has become a favorite is one for shapeware. Like spanx, the comments are brutal. Like, lose weight and you won’t look like a cow. I have news for these women, the right undergarments make the outfit. I was a a wedding years ago and the maid of honor was a skinny woman. Her undergarments were so ill fitting and make her look lumpy. She needed spanx to smooth out her dress. The beautiful dress looked hideous all because she didn’t look in the mirror and think oh maybe I should get better foundation garments.

I for one love spanx and other shapeware, it just gives you a smoother appearance. It has nothing to do with hiding the way you really look. As some women have hinted at in these comments. It doesn’t make you look skinny it just smooths your clothes and allows them to lay correctly.

Some of these women have no shame, I admit I had to go look on their Facebook pages to see what they were working with. Some are simply gorgeous, others not so much, however, when one finds their self esteem in the mirror only, well, their old age is going to come as a surprise to them.

After the ravages of childbirth and yo-yo dieting, spanx is my best friend and I am not ashamed to say that. I like to look good in my clothes and I don’t think that is a bad thing.

As usual any comments, questions or criticisms can be left here or sent to me at angie@angieworld.com.

Seamstress Found

My mother used to be my seamstress, she was hands down the best seamstress in all of Oklahoma, nay, the world, nay, the universe. The covenant between a seamstress and her client is sacrosanct. You have to be able to trust your seamstress to tell you the truth about your clothing choices. Not what they think you want to hear, even if that truth is harsh.

So I needed a seamstress to do some alterations on a dress I am going to wear to a formal wedding. I found the dress I wanted, I was really hoping I wasn’t just thinking it would look good on me and it was not going to.

I researched online to find a seamstress, I found one with great reviews and called her. She could fit me in, I have two dresses, one is my dream dress the other a backup.

I took both because one needed to be altered and one needed to be hemmed.

Today I had a fitting, the one that needed to be altered, dream dress, fits like a glove, but I didn’t want to be overly optimistic. So I said I’m not really sure, she said try on the other one, I did. She came into the room and said can I be honest with you.

I said, yes please, brutally, she said the first dress looks amazing on you, this dress makes you look older than you are. I was like um I’m 55, she said what, I said um yeah. She said no, this is not the dress for you, the first one looks amazing and that is the one you need to wear.

I concurred, she will finish the alterations and have it cleaned and pressed and I will pick it up Monday.

I am very excited, this wedding is going to be so awesome, I cannot wait to see this beautiful bride walk down the aisle.

I am very happy to have found a good seamstress in the area, I haven’t really had one since my mom stopped being one. Like I said, the trust has to be there, my mother used to tell me some harsh truths. And I appreciated it, greatly, I am not one to tell a white lie when it comes to fashion.

It’s a risky thing, to tell a stranger the truth in a department store dressing area. I have done that, of course I told them my name was Rachel and I was a buyer for Bloomingdales. I didn’t want to die.

being the daughter of a seamstress affords me a different eye when it comes to fashion and what fits and what looks good on people. I wish I could sew, I cannot, I never had the patience to learn, my poor mother tried, but even she had to admit defeat.

My head was better suited to living in the clouds and reading all day long. She knew that and was happy to allow me to be well, me.

Maybe I’ll post pictures of me in the dress, that way you can all judge me. It’ll be too late by then, but hey, that is what the internet was invented for. Judging others after the fact, or making up stuff in it’s entirety and going to jail for it.

My Perfect Man

Since I promised I would start dating if Dean Cain doesn’t marry me in March, perhaps April, I thought I would give a list of requirements.

6ft tall, I am 5’4” and I like wearing heels.

Hair would be nice, I really like dark hair and neatly groomed. I like a nicely trimmed beard, not a biker beard. You know the kind, the ones you find food in, that is just gross.

Eyes would be nice, two if at all possible.

Be able to dance, I miss dancing, I really like it, so yes please to dancing.

An OU fan, or at least not an UT fan, they are beyond annoying, as I am sure they will say the same about us. Oh and I don’t think I could date a Nebraska Cornhusker, we used to be huge rivals back in the day and who’s to say we wouldn’t have flashbacks.

Someone who reads, I read a lot, so a reader would be nice. We don’t have to read the same books, in fact I think a man who reads romance novels might be a little weird. So different genres definitely.

I like television, I cannot lie, I like all kinds of different shows as well. No reality tv, no bachelor, bachelorette, stars dancing or singers singing. Sci-fi, super hero, vampire biting and those things, yes.

Going to the movies, a must.

If you have never seen Star Wars, Star Trek, Battlestar Gallactica then I am probably not the woman for you.

Someone who exercises, I would like to have a workout partner. He doesn’t have to eat super healthy but eating the way I do would be a huge bonus.

Oh, if he could cook, major points, I mean I can cook, but a lot of times I choose not to, and I don’t know if I am that great at it.

Guns, yes, I grew up in the country and am very comfortable with them, I don’t think I would get along with a man who was anti-gun.

Someone who wants to travel, I find I like to travel and I don’t want to spend my life sitting at home. Watching paint dry or peel or whatever paint does when one is watching it.

Oh speaking of paint drying, no soccer people, ever, never, I refuse.

Sports in general, I mean I do enjoy a live game,  I am all for that, but sitting at home watching it, I’d rather be reading, or skating or watching paint dry.

A sense of humor is a must, I am really funny fo him finding me funny is a necessity.

So, if we can put all of that into a dating app and find the perfect man for me, let’s do it. You know, if I don’t marry Dean Cain. It could happen, I am incredibly charming.