Month: August 2010

Yesterday I was telling my friend Michelle a story about my mom; I decided to tell the whole story here. When my mom was thirteen her dad passed away, her mother went into what they called then a decline. She went into the bedroom and didn’t come out for over 20 years, my mother at 13 became the “lady” of the house, cooking and cleaning for her siblings on top of continuing to go to school. When she was 16 she had been making decisions for herself for so long she didn’t ask her mother for permission to do anything. Except one time, a boy asked her on a date and she did not want to go out with him, she didn’t want to hurt his feelings. She came up with the brilliant idea of asking her mother for permission, she knew without a doubt in her mind that her mother would say no, as the last time she really had looked at her daughter she was a mere 13 years old. So, into the bedroom my mother went, leaving the door open a crack, so the boy could hear the emphatic no she knew was coming. Much to her chagrin and shock, her mother said yes. My mom said she never asked her mother permission for anything ever again.
When I began dating, my mom told me that story and told me if there was ever a boy I didn’t want to go out with, when I was asking permission to go out, to shake my head no and she would say no. Now, at the time I remember thinking, like there is a chance I am not going to want to go out. But lo and behold, the day came when a boy asked me out, I did not want to go out with him and I didn’t want to hurt his feelings. He had called on the phone, my mom was walking by, I told the boy to hold on, asked my mom if I could go on a date with him, shook my head and held the receiver up so he could hear her no crystal clear.
My mom understood the shaking of the head, then her sense of whimsy took control of her, she began hollering, yes, hollering, NO YOU CANNOT GO OUT WITH THAT BOY, I CAN’T BELIEVE YOU EVEN HAD THE NERVE TO ASK, AS A MATTER OF FACT YOU’RE GROUNDED. By that point I was laughing so hard I had to bury the receiver in the sofa cushions. When my mom was done with her “tirade” she walked off whistling.
I went back to the boy on the phone and he said, I heard, never mind, when things calm down at your house then call me, I said, I sure will. Things never were calm in my house; it was always fun and exciting. So I never called.
My mom was my safety net, I miss that, I hope that my children feel that I am their safety net. No matter what happens, what they do, I will always be here. I hope everyone has or had as great a safety net as I was fortunate enough to have.

Have you ever worn a dress to work, then when you get to work, look down and realize that maybe, just maybe you should have shaved your legs that morning? Just sayin… Don’t come check and see if that is the actual case with me….
After a week of total disregard, I am back on my regular eating habits, man; I can feel that I have not been healthy! I am back to my grapefruit for breakfast, after a pot of coffee of course, cheese sticks for snacks and cottage cheese for lunch, fish for dinner. It is only my second day, but I already feel better. Oh and hot tea all day, I know what you are thinking, it is 150 degrees outside, well, in here, in this office, it is typically 50 degrees on any given day.
Yesterday I was driving on the East side of Plano, I know what you are thinking, why is this blog worthy, well, let me tell you, everything east of central expressway in Plano is 30 miles an hour. Everything west of central expressway is 45 miles an hour. This is enforced amazingly well; there are more police officers on the east side of Plano than anywhere else. Why is this? Because they know that they can catch you speeding there? That most people are used to the 45 miles an hour rules everywhere else? Every time I drive on that side of town I see so many people pulled over and getting a ticket. I have been there once, one time and one ticket on that side of town is all it took for me to learn my lesson.
Perhaps, if someone in law enforcement in Plano reads this, they can explain the speed differences. I know this is not going to change as it is a major money maker for the city. But still, why the huge discrepancy?
Right now I am listening to Taio Cruz, the song is Dynamite, it literally makes me want to get up and dance, there is no one here on this side of the building until 6:30, so I could. Excuse me while I take a dance break! I hope everyone has a great Tuesday! Take a dance break!

Well another August 9th has come around, I am just hoping for a stable, steady day. Should have stayed home for that one! Oh well, if it gets too bad, I can always leave.
I am not going to go into details of why today is a hard day for me, just asking for prayers to be sent up that it will be an ok day. At least until I get home.
This morning as I was getting dressed I watched an episode of Mad Men, I love that show. The costuming is perfection and the colors are eye popping; the dialogue is quick and snappy. The year they are in right now is the year I was born, so the era is one I can relate to, somewhat. I admit right now this is going to be a disjointed post.
I watch all three seasons of The Guild and the first 3 episodes of season 4 on Saturday. I highly recommend this series. Felicia Day is pure brilliance and the characters are so exaggerated, I hope. I only know a couple of gamers and they appear somewhat normal. Hmmm maybe she doesn’t exaggerate the characters. You tell me, I want to hear from all of the role playing gamers out there. If you have not watched The Guild, please do so then report back.

There is a topic that I am passionate about; it is something that actually got me an invitation to leave the singles group at the church I attended. Every week I would attend the class and listen to the people, “Oh if only God would bring someone into my life it would be perfect.” This was from men and women alike. One day I couldn’t take it anymore, I had held my tongue for a long time, actually my friends would have been proud of me. I stood up and said being in a relationship is hard work, it is not easy if it is done the right way, you are not a half of a whole. God created whole human beings and until you can wake up every day and ask God, ok, what are we doing today? And be completely happy with where you are in life, then God will not bring the person you are meant to be with into your life. If you are meant to be with someone. It is a hard truth; you have to be happy with your singleness and be whole with who you are before you can give any part of yourself to another person.
Something I saw yesterday bothered me equally as much, where have all of the good men gone. Well, ladies, allow me to answer, they are under your noses. They are the ones you ignore in order to have the thrill of the bad boy, the man who treats you like, well, for lack of a better word, crap. Until you look at the ones who are not Brad Pitt pretty and the ones that are, well, slightly dorky, or maybe completely dorky and geeky, after all they rule the world, and continue to look at the men who are aloof, distant, who play hard to get emotionally, and let’s face it, we all want what we can’t have, then you will continue to bemoan the fact there are no “good” ones around.
I believe I am unusual in the fact I never looked, I was completely good with my singleness, reveled in it, as a matter of fact. I didn’t need anyone in my life. Once I went to a psychiatrist, after the death of my mother, as we were talking, he asked me if I wanted to get married again. I said, “Oh God No!” He put down his pen, looked at me and asked why not. I told him, while I was not opposed to dating and getting married, I just had a very full, busy life. If God wants me to date, and eventually get married, He will have to bring the man over, hit me in the head and say this one dummy. He told me I was the most mentally healthy person he had ever met, which made me completely unusual.
Here is my advice to the singles out there, get to know who you are, what you like and don’t like, much like Julia Roberts in “The Runaway Bride”, taste all of the styles of eggs to figure out which is your favorite. And when you are “whole” and “healed” from the trauma of past bad relationships and completely satisfied with being single, then ZAP.
If anyone hates me after this, so be it, but I stand by my thoughts. Be complete, and then you will be happy.

Today is the day, the day my baby gets all four of her wisdom teeth out. She is lucky in a way, they didn’t do that when I was her age, they took them out one at a time. It was brutal to have to keep going back for that! She is coming here and I am going with her. I am so happy to be able to do that.
Yesterday I spent the day organizing my Mary Kay products, I will be honest, I didn’t even know what all I had! Now it is all organized and I am ready to go. Also yesterday I got all caught up on my television shows and had a late lunch/early dinner with Alex and he and I got all caught up. All in all, a good day.
I was watching an episode of Sabrina the Teenage Witch yesterday and it made me remember when I was young how I wanted to be a witch, it all started with the Archie comics, where Sabrina was introduced, then it was Witchy Poo on H.R. Pufnstuff, I even had striped socks like she did. Then Samantha on Bewitched and then on and on. I wanted to be able to twitch my nose, snap my fingers or do whatever to make things happen magically. I grew up, realized that was not going to happen, if I want things to happen I have to work for them. So, work I did, work I do and work I will continue to do to make things happen. Every day you do the possible so that in the end the impossible will have happened.

I am fully caffeinated and getting back into the real world. I have just spent three days in complete Mary Kay bliss, learning about new products and seeing all of the great new fall colors! I cannot wait to show them to my existing customers and the new ones I will be helping.
It has been so long since I wrote; it seems forever, where to start. On Friday Tessa came for a visit, we had the best time, of course she spent the night. The next day, Saturday, we went to McDonalds, where she became the instant ruler of the playground. Even the older children did whatever she wanted, it was so fascinating to watch, not a shy bone in that girls body. You can tell her parents have instilled confidence and amazing self esteem in this child.
Sunday was spent getting everything ready to go to Mary Kay Seminar, my outfits, shoes and what hairstyle on what day. It was so good seeing friends I only get to see once a year and great to catch up with the ones that live here and I don’t get to see that often. It was also great making new friends. All in all an amazing time.
Of course after Seminar ended it was the annual tradition of lunch with Jess, since he works downtown we have made this an annual tradition, well, annual when my Seminar ends on a Wednesday, if it ends on a Saturday he is obviously not at work.
I then received a phone call yesterday afternoon that an issue I have been working on since the middle of May has been resolved, in the employees favor! Praise God! A totally amazing win, this has been such an emotional ride, a great outcome. Re-entry into the “real’ world could not have been any greater!
Well here is to a great week, a great day and a great August! Check out my Mary Kay website! The link is to the right!

I will be spending the next three days in Mary Kay world, check out my website by clicking on Mary Kay to the left of the page. Be back to blogging on Thursday!