Dating Update

Ok, so, I did it, my profile on Bumble is live, let the rejection begin. I did indeed use the profile blurb created by my BBFF with my addition on there. I don’t think anyone gets it so far. I do think one man googled the references but upon my conversing further upon the subject he quickly unmatched with me.

I have unmatched with a lot so far, I have one conversation that is happening now, but I honestly don’t think it is going to go too far as he is not nerdy enough.

I say that because I would drive him insane faster than he would drive me insane.

Can you imagine not understanding anything that comes out of someones mouth. They are speaking the same language but not, it can be very confusing.

One man said he played soccer, that was a no brainer, unmatch, one said something I didn’t like about the shirt I had on in one of my photos. Oh, FYI I did allow Shay to choose my photos. All decision making was given away, the only decision I keep is in the choosing.

I am going to be honest here, none are Deanesque so far, I’ll also be honest about this, if someone has on their profile if you voted for whoever don’t swipe right on me. I swipe left on all of them, I don’t want to argue and I don’t want to hear an argument based on elections, politicians or government.

Also, soccer is totally off of the table, trust me when I tell you I have nothing good to say about soccer watchers or players. My last experience taught me so much about those people. If you are one of those people I don’t need you to argue with me about it, not all people are the same, I get it, but I don’t have to live with it.

So, I saw Avengers: Endgame, no worries, I am not going to talk about it yet. I will wait until it has been out for a few weeks before voicing my take on the whole thing. I will say this, go see it, I was completely blown away.

Other than that, you will not be getting anything out of me, thankfully Shay already saw it, so I had someone to talk to about the whole thing.

Please, people, hurry and see it so I can talk about it, I am literally dying! No, not literally, that is hyperbole, however, I do need everyone to see it.

Other than that, nothing else to report on the dating front, I have not set up any actual dates. Wish me luck, say prayers for these men that actually come into contact with me, they may leave more scarred than I.

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Bumble and Other Stuff

It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas around here, the tree is up, lights are up and the decorations are up. I am missing some decorations, my candy canes and a lot of Christmas balls for the tree. I don’t know where they went, I think I left in such a hurry they might have gotten thrown out. Oh well, trip to the store in my future!
The last couple of Christmases have not been as joyous as they should have been. I will be making up for lost time this year, lights, hot chocolate, looking at the neighborhood lights. I am going to do it all, Christmas music playing as loud as I like, singing at the top of my lungs, yes, I do feel bad for my neighbors.

As you know, if you have been keeping up, I have been listening to a lot of Kellie Rasberry lately, especially on her podcast that she does with her husband Allen Evans. They met on Bumble and they talk about it a lot, incessantly, make it sound so great.

Well the other night I decided to take a look, what a nightmare, it paired me up with a creepy guy that works in my building. Let me tell you, I canceled that and deleted the app so fast it would make your head spin.

I know without a doubt it was God telling me to just wait, He has great things in store for me. So wait I shall.

No dating apps, no dating websites, none of it, plus I am still very broken. I fully realize I have nothing to offer anyone right now. I have massive trust issues, I don’t know if those will ever go away, not even if it’s Dean Cain.

I took Tess last week for her Christmas pictures, they turned out so cute. I dread the day she tells me she doesn’t want to do this anymore. I might cry, and I’m not a cryer.

It is stupidly hot here in Texas, we had a few days where I got to wear sweaters and boots. I am so very not happy. I bought new sweater dresses and new boots. Some really cute pink, over the knee boots, I have yet to be able to wear them. I am so very not happy. I know I said that twice but it needed to be repeated.

Can I ask you something? A serious question, answers would be appreciated. Why are people so mean and nasty to people they call for help? I get it that you’re frustrated and unhappy that your services aren’t working and by the time you get to my department you have had three to four or more technicians at your home. However, that is no excuse to call any company and say the most vile, hate filled and even racists things to the person on the other end of the line.

I was actually called the N word several times last month, me, yes, me. If any of you have ever seen me or seen a picture of me you will know that alone is the stupidest thing ever. But here’s the thing, why would you say that to anyone? I get that you believe you can say anything to people you can’t see, but this is beyond the pale. I’ll be honest with you, if you tell us your issue, don’t tell us to read the account, because I am here to tell you, when you talk to the off shore people, those notes don’t make sense. Tell us what is happening, and allow us to help you. Once you get to my level, you are in the advanced world, we have the tools to figure out why nothing is working and we also have the means to contact field managers and technicians. If it will never work, we’ll tell you the truth.

Stop calling places and screaming like banshees, it will get you nowhere.

I will tell you what has changed my attitude towards the people I speak to on a daily basis. Every morning, before I get out of my car, I pray, I don’t ask God to make people nice, I ask Him to change my attitude towards the people who come on the line. I ask Him to help me be nicer to them, to speak to them like they are human and their issue matters to me. And it does and it has made a huge difference in the way I handle my customers.

I love my job and I love my country, so there you have it. My secret to dealing with mean people is to pray for them before I talk to them and to pray I have a better attitude towards them.

I spoke to one woman last week that told me she wrote a book, I find that fascinating. I asked her if she minded sharing the title with me, I literally burst out laughing and on my break ordered the book. I will be reviewing it in my next post. Bitchie Bells, I cannot wait to read this book! It came last week and I have been waiting for some down time to dive in. This evening is my time, I will be reading it tonight, it isn’t a big book and well, I read fast.

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