Can men and women be friends without the physical getting in the way? That is the question that the movie When Harry met Sally asked and seemingly answered, however, the answer was erroneous. Because their answer was no, my answer is yes, if, and only if, there has never been anything physical to begin with.
Take Jess and myself, best friends, for many years, we have proven the rule, men and women can be friends, but remember, we have never dated. So rule proven.
I do not believe that men and women can be friends if they have dated or had a physical relationship. There will always be something there, a hidden joke, a look, an untoward message, a wink a nudge. It is disrespectful to your current relationship to keep these men or women around. Get rid of them, you will never be just friends if you have seen that person without clothes on. It is a fact, and a proven one, look at the movies, read Dear Abby, look at Facebook and any dating website. If you are keeping these people around you are asking for trouble, or else you cannot commit. If you cannot commit and get rid of the unseemly people in your life then you need to say goodbye to the one you are dating.
That is the way I feel, that is the way I have always felt, this is nothing new with me.
It has been on my mind a lot lately due to the avenues that Facebook opens, it is so tempting to see what your old boyfriend/girlfriend is up to, and why not be friends. Well for just the reasons I have outlined, if you are in a current relationship it is disrespectful to the person you are with. If you are single and they are single go for it, see what rekindles, see why you broke up in the first place. I guarantee the reasons are still there, whatever they may be.
I know for a Friday this is a deep subject and I am sure to get some backlash and perhaps some support for my view, either way I welcome all comments.
I hope you have a good Friday and a great weekend!
Nine Words Women Use
I stole this from an email I received from my friend Wanda, however, I loved it, so here it is. Men learn a lesson here, women, recognize yourself….
(1) Fine : This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
(2) Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
(3) Nothing : This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
(4) Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
(5) Loud Sigh: This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
(6) That’s Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
(7) Thanks : A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’.. That will bring on a ‘whatever’).
(8) Whatever : Is a woman’s way of saying…Go to Hell…
(9) Don’t worry about it, I’ll do it : Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to # 3.
Angie World 