New Year Same Me

It is officially the new year and I can now tell the secret I had been keeping. My youngest son, Alex and his girlfriend Elicia got married! New Year’s Eve at Topgolf, where they met, it was fitting that their story have it’s crowning moment there.

Hands down my favorite moment of the year, the event was so representative of who they are as a couple. It was kept top secret as they only invited immediate family and a few close friends. Twenty-four in all, it was filled with so much laughter and love.

My daughter, Elizabeth Anne, pointed out this was the first New Year’s Eve we had all spent as a family since they were little. It was amazing for all of us to be together.

Family is a word that encompasses so much, in this case it includes myself, their dad, his wife, the three of them and now two daughter-in-laws and a boyfriend.

The bride wore a deep burgundy lace dress and the groom wore a charcoal suit with a matching shirt. They told their guests to dress in what they were comfortable in.

We golfed, ate, some drinks were had, we laughed, a lot, we watched vows exchanged and cheered the newly married couple. You could feel the emotions in the air, the good wishes, the love and the excitement for the new couple.

What a great way to start the year, having a new daughter-in-law and being with my family, I can’t think of one thing I would have rather done. Oh, wait, a date with Dean, wait, no, not even that could have outdone this event.

Someone took a picture of all of us together, when I say all of us, yes, I am including their dad and his wife in that. When I get that I will amend this post and add it, it represents who we are. Blended is a word that gets thrown around a lot, for better or worse, when one is blended you take the good, the bad, the ugly and make it something absolutely beautiful. Which is what we are, a beautifully blended family. Can I tell you all a secret? I genuinely like my ex’s wife, she didn’t cause our divorce, she came into the picture much later and she is a really nice person. Who really cares about my children and has shown it in so many ways. I pray that they stay together for the duration, she is a much better fit for him than I ever was. She made it a point to tell me she expects me to come to Thanksgiving next year and wouldn’t take no for an answer.

I am off work until Sunday, today I have an appointment with a functional medicine place. I am very excited about this, I have been waiting since October for this appointment. I’ll let you all know what they say, they treat the whole person, not just symptoms. I am telling you the hot flashes are about to do me in, I am hot natured anyway, and when one hits it is horrible! I feel like I am burning up from the inside out. I will say because it was so cold New Years Eve, I didn’t get one hot flash at all. It was awesome!

I really don’t want to put anything synthetic in my body, so I am eager to say what they can recommend for me. I have started taking Vitamin D3 in liquid form and I do collagen. I feel like that has helped somewhat, my hair is super thick now, again, I had started losing it, which was a nightmare, I so do not want to look like I have mange.

I have seen women who look like they have mange, with thinning hair, it happens, but I don’t want that. If that does happen to me, it will be wig time, I won’t hesitate.

That’s all for now, I have to get dressed for my appointment. I hope everyone has the best 2020 ever, I know I will, it started off great and I already have a trip on the books for next month. Can anyone say aliens! I am so excited!

Weddings and Funerals

I have often said I like funerals better than weddings, it’s not because I am morbid or have a particular interest in the macabre. It is due to the fact that I was exposed to funerals way before I ever attended a wedding.
I was raised not only by old people, but I was surrounded by them as well. I was born the youngest in a family that was well established and had an inordinate amount of members that were born in the late 1800’s into the early 1900’s.
My parents pre-payed and planned their funerals in the early 1970’s. Every funeral we went to my mom would say oh don’t do that at mine or oh that’s a really good idea, I want that.
I fully admit I inherited that trait, I have been planning my funeral way before I planned a wedding for myself. To me a funeral is for the living, a way to say goodbye, to honor a life well lived. It is typically when someone is older and has had a full life. I have only been to two who were not old and I felt it was way before their time to go.
Yesterday was for one of those people, it was a shocking piece of news. Hearing that someone we had just spent time with two days prior had passed away.
He was young, my age, and to our knowledge had no health issues. So to get the news that he was gone was indeed jarring.
I admit I didn’t know him well, I met him and his wife through the Irishman. He was a big sports fan and was a fan of the soccer team the Irishman loves. They have a huge fan club here in North Texas and that is where they met and formed a friendship.
I would come to know them as just really good people, nice, funny, caring and sweet. They were very much in love with each other, devoted to each other. He was very simply a really nice man, that is the highest compliment I can give someone, he was genuinely nice. Kind of quiet, I could tell he was one of those people who has a gentle soul. His wife, definitely complimented his personality as she is outgoing, friendly and devoted to him and her family.
I was privileged to attend the wedding of this man and his wife, not even a year ago. It was a wedding I have often said was the perfect wedding. In a beautiful, older church, the minister was sweet, funny and spoke eloquently and knew the couple. Then the reception was punch, cake and a few appetizers. All done by the couple’s families.
The funeral was as perfect as the wedding, the song Layla by Eric Clapton, the live version, was played. I had to smile as it struck me that I wish I had known him better. This is something I often plan, my funeral, with not typical songs played.
People spoke, my original assessment of him was not changed, kind, genuine, funny, devoted to his family and friends were words that were said often.
My heart breaks for his wife; this was a funeral I truly wish had never happened.
I will be praying for his wife, mother, daughters and step-sons in the coming days, weeks, months and years they have to spend apart from this man.
I wish I had known him better, I am sorry that everyone had to say goodbye for a little while to this man. I am grateful to have had the privilege of attending their wedding and his send-off.
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Elizabeth Anne Got Married

My hands are finally untied, I can talk about the thing I was forbidden to talk about for so long. My daughter got married! Yes, Elizabeth Anne got married Friday, December 5, 2014 at roughly 2:30 pm. It was a simple ceremony witnessed by her closest friends and family and her precious cows and chickens oh and can’t forget the donkeys; they were in attendance as well.

So happy her Aunt Rena and Grandpa Reno and Grandma Mike could be there, it was good to see them again and I do know that Rena is one of Elizabeth’s favorites, don’t tell the rest. Shhhhhhh, our secret.

The bride was beautiful in a simple knee length hi-low dress, it was cream-colored lace, and with the addition of cowboy boots it was perfect for the setting. She is beautiful to begin with, her friend Chelsea did her hair and makeup and she was radiant.

With the hard work of her dad’s wife, the affair was perfect and went off without a hitch. Before you can scratch your head, the wedding was on their property with the reception in their party barn. And yes, as mother of the bride I took a huge step back and allowed this to happen as she does a lot for my children, even though they were grown when she arrived on the scene.

She did an amazing job, from the food to the decorations; I honestly cannot find one fault with anything she did. Elizabeth Anne is not a planner so this took a lot of stress off of her, to which I am grateful.

Jay Renee Photography did the photos, and yes I have an in with the owner of that fine business, Jason is the son of my friend Sandi. We would NEVER have trusted anyone else with this function; he is an amazing photographer and part of our family.

I am so happy with the turnout, how many people could come on a Friday afternoon, so happy my BBFF could make it. Sad my nephew Chris could not, but understandable as his fiancé was having some medical issues. It was right he was there to take care of her; I know he was there in spirit. Sad also Miss Jan could not be there as she has known Elizabeth Anne since, well before she was born, however, she was busy taking care of her daughter who had medical issues. Which we totally understood, a mother’s children come first. That is the way it should be.

It doesn’t seem real, my baby married, it is so adult, for the life of me I can’t figure out how she even got a marriage license due to the fact she is only 5 years old. At least that is what it feels like; time went by exceedingly fast, warp speed it you will.

feel like there is so much more I need to tell her, however, when I think about it, there is nothing left to impart, as I talk a lot and she has heard all of my words of wisdom. I say wisdom; she says insanity, tomato, potato, whatever.

I look forward to this new chapter in her life, to watch her grow even more, I look forward to our family growing with the addition of a new son-in-law and the daughter he brings with him. Nothing but goodness and mercy shall follow them all the days of their life together.

Wedding Update

So, for all those wondering, I am not getting married December 31, 2011, it was unrealistic to try and plan something for that time of year. It is wickedly expensive and I have to be honest I don’t want to spend the money on that and not spend on Christmas. So no wedding this year, maybe next year, I don’t know. I am thinking I want to get married on a Friday the 13th that is a good luck day in my family. There are three next year, January, March and July, one the year after in September. But how cool would that be, to get married on a Friday the 13th in 2013.
I have to be honest, I am in no hurry, and really at this age the only reason to get married is so that person can make medical decisions for you in case something happens. But I have to tell you, I already have Elizabeth for that slot, she knows not to pull the plug, and I want to live as long as I possibly can. So really, what other reason is there? I can see it when you are young, but I am not a 19 year old, impressionable young girl any longer. I am older, jaded and not very good at planning things. I am also ambivalent toward the whole thing. I mean seriously, what changes with a marriage certificate? I know, I would no longer be living in sin, however in bible days all you had to do was say we are married and boom you were married. Or you walked around a tent three times, I can’t remember exactly, but it was also easy to divorce. The man just said the words; I divorce you, and boom, divorced. Will I be no less committed without a piece of paper? Well I have been committed this whole time, so nothing changes there; a piece of paper will not change that.
I mean I have done the big, white dress, champagne fountain huge wedding thing, I don’t need it again. However if I do decide to get married, then there will be a wedding, a small one, with very close friends and family. It won’t be July, can you imagine? The heat in Texas, at a wedding, ugh. So if we miss the March window, it will not be until 2013.

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