Happy Anniversary Foy and Odela

January 13, one of my favorite days of the year, why, you ask, well I’m glad you did. It is the day that started everything, January 13, 1934, Foy and Odela went to the Justice of the Peace and promised in front of God and everyone to love, honor, be faithful, loyal and remain true to one another for a life time.

That they did, with a dignity and grace that is rarely seen these days. I know I have a tendency to romanticize things from my childhood, but these are the two humans I don’t have to exaggerate or give them qualities that they didn’t possess.

They were and continue to be my model for what true, romantic love looks like. They were the epitome of sharing, caring, laughter, love and discipline. They were truly perfect in my eyes, they always will be.

They lived through some of the hardest times this country has ever seen and came out without any bitterness or anger. They loved this country fiercely, just as fiercely as they loved one another.

My parents didn’t have to adopt me, they chose to, it was a daunting task, taking in a pre-teen with a bad attitude. They did, the attitude changed, the stubbornness did not, They told me they had no regrets, I believe them, the last words my mother ever said to me was I had been the best surprise.

I miss them every day of my life.

Today, on what would be their 84th anniversary, I know that it is truly special as they now have their youngest son with them to celebrate. I have said before, I don’t believe they are looking down on me and their other children left here on earth. Some things would make them sad, and there is no sadness in heaven, and trust me, those two are in heaven. There is no doubt in anyone’s mind that my parents ended up anywhere else.

So there they are, in heaven, having a coconut cake to celebrate. My brother is there to help them eat the cake today, I know that makes the celebration that much sweeter.

Happy Anniversary Mom and Dad

Today is my parents wedding anniversary, and yes they were married on a Friday, so this day always signifies a good luck day in my family. My parents were amazing people, I know I tend to go on and on here about them, but honestly I don’t have the correct words to properly immortalize them.
They were amazing individually, and as a couple, they were just incredible. Their love of God came first, in all things, their love of their family came next, they always had their priorities in order.
They taught me so much, I think the one thing that stands out this day in particular, is the way they taught me how no one person is more important in a relationship. They both gave to each other freely, I saw it over and over, from the way my mom cooked things my dad would love, to the way he kept her sewing machines humming.
I used to love watching them in the evenings, quietly sitting and holding hands, it was so simple yet so telling. They had been together for years, yet they were so romantic with each other. Kissing like they would never see one another again when one would leave the house without the other. Holding hands while watching television, reading the bible out loud to each other, and my mom laughing at my dad’s jokes, even though I am sure she had heard them a million times.
I consider myself so fortunate for their good example in so many areas of life, being adopted, well it is a crap shoot on who you will end up with. I totally lucked out in the parent area, if God had asked me to choose, I could not have chosen for myself any better.
So, mom and dad, I hope your celebration today is as amazing and wonderful and as full of laughter as you were here on earth.
I love you always,
A grateful daughter