Well hello old friend, it has been a long time, we finally meet again and I am ready to write.
Have you ever found yourself in the predicament of wanting to correct someone’s grammar on social media?
I can’t share a meme if there are misspellings or grammatical mistakes no matter how much I want to. Does no one read these? Also when I read a long post in some group or other that I am a member of and I can’t get past all of the misspellings/grammar mistakes. I can’t even answer them, some things are so poorly written I don’t even understand them.
I want to tell people can you read that out loud and tell me if it makes sense.
It’s horrifying, and it is across the board, young, old, in-between, it’s as if no one attended school on the days those things were taught.
I know, that makes me old and crotchety and I don’t care, I have always been this way. If I come across a mistake in a book I can’t read the whole thing.
I cannot be the only one that feels this way, there have to be more of us. Oh well, suffer I will, not in silence, but suffering nonetheless.
On to the next topic, as you all know, or might not know, I took a DNA test several years ago. Not because I wanted to find long lost relatives, but because I wanted to find out more about my genetic makeup.
I am fascinated by that aspect of it, I love researching my family history and seeing where we came from.
On the flip side I have been contacted by people I have genetically matched with and asked how we are related.
I don’t know, how would I know that, one woman matched as a first cousin, which means one of her parents would have to be my aunt/uncle. I realized she matched me on the paternal side of my family. I know absolutely nothing about my biological fathers family. Purposely, I know nothing, I met the man twice, once when I was 5 years old and the second time I was 12 years old.
He was a horrible human and there were reasons my biological mother divorced him when she was pregnant with me. She hid the fact she was pregnant as she could not have gotten the divorce back then. In 1964 it was a different world, the courts did not care that the husband was abusive not only towards the woman but towards children.
Neither one of them should have been parents, but there they were, 4 children, all of them given away. I fared the best, the rest, well they are sad stories and not mine to tell.
I digress, I explained to this woman I did not know how we were related and suggested she talk to her parents and did tell her my biological fathers last name.
She did not recognize the name, wanted to argue, and I said I don’t know, ask your parents. Have them do a DNA test to see how they are related to me. That was the last I heard from her, I did notice I have no new matches.
I have had several people reach out to me asking me the same question. The short answer is I don’t know, the shorter answer is I don’t care.
I know some people are looking for their roots, their biological family but I am not one of them. I will give as much information as I have, but that side of the family I have none.
My biological mother’s side is a different story, I was adopted by her aunt and uncle, so my great aunt and uncle.
I know everything about that side, I also research my grandmother’s side of the family. Which is completely fascinating, we have been here in this country since the 1600’s, I even had a relative accused of being a witch in Salem, Massachusetts. She was hanged, sad for her, but a fascinating history fact for me. I never knew about that until I started researching.
I hope everyone finds all of the information they want about their family’s past, I just don’t care to add relatives. I’m good with the family I have, two amazing sons, one incredible daughter, daughters-in-law, granddaughter, bonus grandchildren and soon, identical twin granddaughters.
My life is full and I am completely happy with all of my family relations. Once again I will answer any questions to the best of my ability but I don’t know a lot if you are on my biological father’s side of the road.
As usual any comments, questions or criticisms can be left here or sent to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.