Be a Ruth

So, ok, today on Facebook, I saw a post from a friend asking married men to stop poking her. for those not familiar, it is a feature within Facebook that you can send a virtual poke. Back in the day, like 6, 7 years ago, it was meaningless, now it has taken on a different meaning.

I weighed in with women need to stop as well sending these virtual pokes to married men or men they know are seeing someone.

Now, before I go further, I want you to know my friend, she is a total Ruth, she means it when she says no. she is loyal, loving, kind, beyond beautiful and completely dedicated to the Lord.

I have talked about this before, being a Ruth while waiting on your Boaz, for those of you not familiar with the story, please allow me to direct you to the book Ruth in the Bible.

In case you are wondering were to read this amazing story: you can go here and read the entire book.

Ruth is a wonderful example of how we all should be, loyal, kind, loving and willing to work hard to provide for one’s family. She also shows us that family comes in all forms, her husband dies and instead of going back to her people, as was the custom of that day. Ruth stays with her mother-in-law to make sure she is provided for; in fact, she follows her to her homeland. She goes to work in the fields to make sure they both have enough to eat.

Which is where Boaz notices her, he doesn’t notice her beauty, he notices her hard work and asks about her. Why is she working so hard, who is she providing for? When he finds out it is her mother-in-law and she is widowed he is intrigued.

What kind of woman does this? When she could have gone back to her own people, she would have been provided for, instead, she works in the field.

It’s an amazing story, most people read it as Boaz is the hero of that story, rescuing Ruth and Naomi, but really, Ruth is the hero. With hard work, perseverance and loyalty, she carves a life out for her and her mother-in-law. Unheard of in that day and age, unheard of now.

I believe the book of Ruth is a blueprint on how women should behave towards one another, we should be looking out for each other. Helping one another, not trying to take married men, or engaged men or even men who are dating another woman.

In all honesty I pity women who behave this way, they will never know the true kinship of womanhood.

We are all here together, behaving like a Ruth transcends just the aspect of men and women, it is the way we should treat everyone.

Unkindness is becoming a way of life in the world, not just the country, the world, Christians and Jews are under attack, being beheaded and it is still not being addressed. I am shocked and saddened with all of that going on, women still can’t get their acts together.

Just stop, stop encouraging the contact with the taken men, as soon as you find out there is someone at home waiting for them. Step away. Walk away. Run away.

Be faithful to not only other women, but to yourself, hold yourself higher, look to Ruth for a code of behavior that never goes out of style.

With those words I will leave you with an old segment of a radio show that doesn’t’ exist anymore.

Go in peace, remember, give a hand up to others, not a boot in the face.


Independence Day

Independence Day. This is the Day that we, as a people, declared our Independence from England. What a day that was, I would love to be able to time travel and witness it, the men who signed it were all different personalities, had different ideologies, yet came together for one common goal. To fight for the freedom to become a country, a stand-alone country, with unalienable rights, the right to pursue happiness, the right to bear arms, the right to say whatever comes into our heads.
This is a day we must all, as Americans; take a day to not only celebrate those beginnings but to celebrate how far we have come as a nation since then.
Our country, The United States of America, is the only country on earth that is truly an amalgamation of other nations.
That formation began a long time before 1776, people of different nationalities were drawn here for centuries. The Spanish, the Vikings and yes the English, all were here long before we all came together to fight for our freedom to form our country.
The gracious mountains, the earth that was so rich to grow good food was a drawing card for humans all over the planet.
This day, of all the days on the calendar, we, as Americans, should take the time to not only celebrate, but to reflect on the lives that were given so we can be here today. Never forget the ones that came before us, never forget what they were fighting so hard to have.
Freedom, freedom of speech, freedom to defend not only our nation; but also our very homes, freedom to explore, to find our inner peace. Freedom to worship God, not only worship, but also worship the way we want to. To practice our religion, Freedom of Religion, I think in this day we forget that.
Christianity itself is under attack, sometimes, as I read the news, and read Facebook, I believe Christians themselves have forgotten what we are supposed to be. Faithful, Hopeful, Loving, those are the things we are supposed to be as Christians. Just in case you are wondering where I am getting my information, straight from the Bible itself. 1st Corinthians 13:13 (interesting side note, 13 is a much beloved number in my family) “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.” I think we, as Christians, forget that Love is the greatest of these things that are left.
So, today, as we ponder our independence, let’s declare a new independence, one free from hate, prejudice, hopelessness, faithlessness, let’s declare a dependence on faith, hope and love.
As a country we has so much to be proud of, today we focus on that, and rightfully so, tomorrow, let’s focus on building up our country to being even greater than it ever has been before.

Still Angry!

I’m still angry, Pat Robertson’s views on infidelity really have me going, this is a supposedly Christian man, so, I decided to go to the source to see what happens to men when they cheat. Let’s take David shall we, this was God’s favorite child, he was so favored he was taken from sheep herder to King. God loved David, then David saw Bathsheba, he wanted her, he decided to take her. It didn’t matter that she was married to his friend, his friend who was in his army. David watched her as she bathed, now, I am going to stop the story her to tell you one of my own.
I was in Sunday School, and the leader of the class was teaching on this subject, do you know who he blamed for David’s perfidy? Bathsheba. I was incensed, I said, hold the phone, she had no control over her own destiny, this man spied on her during her bathing time, this man arranged for her husband to be killed. She could not say no to her king, her sovereign, we here in America don’t fully understand the hierarchy that was in place at that time. Your King was your leader, your father figure, the one that was supposed to take care of you, he had absolute rule over you. God placed kings in those days, he was the ruler of the land, one did not say no to him. I pointed out this Sunday School teacher obvious lack of research, and no I wasn’t asked to leave that one, but it did embarrass him, rightfully so.
I now get back to the original programming, so, David has her husband killed, marry’s her, they have a child, of course she was already pregnant before her husband was killed. So now we have a progeny of their sin, God does not like this, the child dies. Once again we have the evidence of the sins of the father being visited on the child, God did not intend for men to “wander”. We see it time and time again, you do not take what belongs to you, no coveting, not stealing, a hand for a hand, an eye for an eye. Old Testament vengeance, I am not suggesting we take vengeance, God will do that, I am suggesting that if a man really wants to be a man, he read the bible, he follow its teachings and stop this.
It’s not only men who were subjected to God’s wrath, Sarah, instead of waiting for God’s promise that she would have a son, told Abraham to lie with her maid to get a child. Then Sarah became jealous of the child, this child was her fault, she didn’t trust God. When Sarah did have a child, a son, as God promised, she made Abraham send his first-born away, with his mother, her jealousy did this.

Her jealousy has caused a lot of issues throughout history and continues to, I am not going to get into that here, but people, read a history book, do some research, especially if you are a Sunday School teacher. Because I am going to tell you something if you have me in your class you better come prepared, I was raised by people who not only read the bible but studied it, read commentaries, did research, I read those books as well. I had discussions with my dad and grandpa, these men were students of God. They raised me to know the material and come prepared, so you had better do the same.

As for Pat Robertson, well, I will leave him to God, I know he has a lot to answer for, telling a woman to forgive because her husband might be handsome and well men wander.

How to be a Ruth

I have not written in a while because it hurts to type, I don’t know what happened to it, however it is getting worse and typing hurts now. However, I shall persevere, here I sit with a lot on my mind and hopefully can get it all out before the pain is too much.
The show that ran last night on Conversations with Shanon J and Angie B was all about how to be Ruth while waiting on your Boaz. For those of you not familiar with the Bible, check it out, the book of Ruth is an amazing guide for women. Not only does it tell of Ruth’s devotion to Naomi, it tells of Naomi’s dedication to Ruth, how she wanted her taken care of as well. It tells how women should behave toward their husbands mothers, it tells of how mothers of sons should behave toward the women their sons choose to marry. It is a beautiful love story between these two women and their desire to take care of each other. It tells of dedication, loyalty and selflessness, it is a map on how to behave as a woman.
I think sometimes we forget that, we forget how to behave with each other, women should be taking care of each other instead of trying to making themselves available to men who do not belong to them, they should be reaching out and lifting up. One reason I love my Mary Kay business so much is the women, we all want to help each other to succeed, we want to lift each other up. I have often said you can go to any Mary Kay event, see thousands of women at a time, not one cross word, not one curse word, not one catty word, nothing but kindness and camaraderie, it speaks to me, it appeals to me and it soothes my soul. After being in the world and seeing how women behave towards each other, it is my refuge. I urge every woman out there to read the book of Ruth. Read it with eyes searching on how to treat other women, not with eyes that want a man. Learn how to treat other women the way we are supposed to and God will bring you the man He wants for you. Avoid all of the drama, avoid the consequences for the actions you don’t take. If you never try to steal something that does not belong to you, then you will not reap the consequences.
If you did not get to listen last night I will post when the show goes up, I am really proud of the show and the Conversations we are having.
My fervent hope is that God continue to use us to say things that women are uniquely qualified to talk about.

Happy Father’s Day

I am still overwhelmed by the weekend, however today is Father’s day and I feel compelled to write about the two men whom I considered father figures in my life.
The first one was my Grandfather, he was my first male influence, he taught me how to read, he taught me about history, not only our family history, but our country’s history. They were intertwined, he had to teach both to me. He taught me about the land, farming, animals, how you had to take care of both because they take care of you. He was a great man with a great love of life, an amazing sense of humor and a love for God that had to be witnessed first hand to appreciate. He found humor in every day happenings and passed that on to me, to this day I miss him and tell stories about him to anyone who will listen.
Next up was my dad, he was my adopted dad, in blood lines he was my great-uncle, my grandfather’s brother. It will not be surprising to learn he was a lot like his older brother, he had a keen mind, a sharp sense of humor and a gentleness that was hard to resist. He taught me what it meant to help others in need, we might not have had a lot of material things but what we had, was shared. If he saw someone in need that person was helped, immediately. There was no great discussion, it was all action, he gave me a sense of pride in helping others. He had great wisdom, I believe that was his gift from God, wisdom, I didn’t always put into practice what he had to say, but I always listened. I hope he knows that he taught me so much, and as an adult I do put into practice much of what he taught me.
He was a man who loved the land, he was happiest working in the garden with his beautiful wife by his side. You can’t really picture him without her, they were a team, in every sense of the word. Their marriage was simply beautiful, they would laugh at each others silly jokes and sit side by side watching Wheel of Fortune every night. With them I witnessed the most romantic thing I have ever been privileged to see between a man and woman, they read the bible out loud to each other every night. Something so simple, yet so profound, they taught me not to settle for less than the best that God wants for us.
I miss you so much Grandpa and Dad, I hope that you are having the best time in heaven and I hope that you know how much you gave me, a simple little girl, while you were here on this earth.

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