I have something I want to say to someone and every time I sit down to write it, it comes out like an eulogy, and it isn’t one, not by a long shot.
I just want this person to know what they have meant to me and how they have affected my life and the lives of my children. So, I am just going to write a letter to him to let him know.
From the very first time I met you when I was 18 you have never spoken down to me. You didn’t treat me like a kid, you treated me like an adult. I can’t begin to count how many times you came to the house, after I married your son, to help fix things or get things ready for our first child.
You did it all with a ready smile and with laughter in your voice. When you stayed with us while you were working in Tulsa while living in Texas, you introduced me to chocolate malts made with chocolate ice cream and chocolate malted. Pure, old fashioned heaven.
When your son and I divorced you still treated me with respect, when you would see me you would hug me and tell me you missed me.
You never once spoke down to me, or treated me like I was less than just because your son and I decided we would be better parents apart than together.
With my dad passing away when my children were very young you became their only grandpa. I don’t know if you really realize how much they love you and look up to you.
No matter what they were going through you never made them feel bad, you were there to simply listen and offer your wisdom. Never judging, just being their grandpa Reno, and you have been amazing at that job.
I could never have asked for a better man for the job than you, I see parts of you in each one of them. Especially your humor, they all seem to have gotten a triple dose of humor, I like to take credit for part of it.
I just wanted to take a moment to let you know that what you have done and the way you have treated me have not gone unnoticed.
I think we all do a fabulous job at being exes, ex-in-laws, ex-spouses it doesn’t matter when it comes to family and being there for the children, grandchildren and a great grand. You are incredible at putting everyone at ease and bringing a sense of fun to gatherings.
Even my fiancé, when going to Tessa’s birthday party this year asked if you were going to be there, because he really likes you.
Thank you is all I really have, and it doesn’t seem to be enough.