I was watching the View today and Joy Behar said something that really made me angry, huge surprise there, what they were talking about was should a woman choose to be on welfare to stay home with her children. My resounding answer to that is no, no she should not, I should not have to pay for someone to be a stay at home parent. Welfare was put into place to be a stop-gap, to help people get on their feet, not keep them on their behinds.
I feel very strongly about this, and I am going to tell you why, I was a stay at home mom, my husband at the time and I chose that for our family. We could afford for me not to bring home a paycheck, so that is what we chose. for the families that cannot afford that choice, I’m sorry, but it is not a reality for them. When I was a single mom, staying home was not an option, I did what I had to do in order for my family to survive. I worked two jobs and went to school full-time, I would like to add my jobs were considered menial. I kept kids in my home and I worked at Kids R Us, a children’s clothing store, there was no money for extras, my big break came when I got a job offer from the telephone company. I could cut down to one job, what a luxury that was for us at the time, I would like to reiterate, I did what I had to do to ensure the survival of my family. I did not continue to stay home as that was not a luxury I could afford, I was not going to go on welfare to continue my lifestyle when I myself could not maintain it.
Mitt Romney’s wife has seriously come under fire for being a stay at home mom? It is something they could afford, and it was something she and her husband decided was best for their family. I do not fault them for that decision, in fact this is the same as when Theresa Hienz-Kerry put down Laura Bush for being a Kindergarten teacher. Why as women are we putting each other down? Working or staying home, we all need to support one another, these are choices that we make, well, no, I take that back, sometimes the choice is not ours. If families cannot afford for one parent to stay home, it is better for them to work than it is for them to be on welfare. I will say that long and loud, I do not want to pay for anyone’s choices in life. Now being on welfare because you are not able to work or were laid off and are actively looking for a job is very different from making a choice to stay home and collect checks.
I am going to be honest about this, I don’t want to pay for people’s birth control, abortions or laziness, I do not mind paying for actual health conditions for those that need help and for help getting back on ones feet. Hugely different issues there, make no mistake about it, I am not afraid of hard work, if the only job I could find were to be digging ditches I would do it. If the only job were to be a fry cook in McDonald’s I would do it, honest work for honest pay, that is after all the real American dream.

3 Replies to “Controversies”

  1. Ayup. Well put and I really cannot add much more. I have to work MY a&& off to pay my taxes and give my son and I (and the Whackjob) the lifestyle we want. Why should I pay for someone else to stay at home?

    But hey… my sister is a stay at home mom, and she works as hard, if not harder, than I do. But that was a deliberate choice for them – one I support 100%.


  2. Exactly, your sister and her husband decided that was what they wanted as a family. One they could afford to make, they don’t rely on government money to maintain their choice. I have been both, and both are hard work.


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