Today is Father’s Day, that day we take to celebrate all of the Father’s in our lives. The ones we share DNA with, the ones that chose to be fathers without DNA being involved.
My own dad was the latter, sort of, we did share DNA, just not father/daughter DNA. Blood wise he was my great uncle, my grandpa’s brother, legally, he was my dad. He chose to be. As anyone who knows me or has read me, knows, I am adopted.
My dad was a great dad, he basically took a feral child and made her into something resembling civilized. There are some areas in which he succeeded swimmingly, others, not so much. Let’s focus on the ones he succeeded in.
My dad taught me to laugh, to see the humor in everything, to not take myself and life’s curveballs so seriously.
He taught me it was ok to fail as long as I got back up and approached the problem from a different angle. Don’t continue to do the same thing over and over and expect a different outcome.
He taught me to trust God, to trust that in the end, everything is going to be ok. To pray and have a daily conversation with God, don’t just rely on Him during the bad times, but rejoice in Him in the good times and there is good everywhere. Even during the bad, good can be found, and what we think is bad can really turn out to be a blessing in disguise. I have had many of those in my lifetime.
He taught me it was ok to be me, to be my real self, to read constantly, never to become complacent. Always learning something new, and to never rely on anyone else for my own opinion. He valued self education so much, he was the smartest man I have ever known.
I miss him every day, there are so many times I would love to know his opinion, his wisdom, his advise and I have to rely on what I think he would say. I hope when I see him again he is proud of the person I became, I know I have made some questionable decisions, but over all, I think I did ok. We’ll see.
My grandfather was my first real father figure, he taught me about kindness and graciousness in the face of adversity. He taught me about being non-judgmental, acceptance, he loved without question. I miss him every day as well, he was the first person I ever felt completely safe with.
To all of the Dad’s out there, whether by DNA or by choice, happy Father’s Day, I hope your day is filled with nothing but joy and happiness.
To the father of my children, I couldn’t have chosen a better dad, no matter what he has always been there for them. Whether they liked it or not, he was there, his presence was very much a force to be reckoned with. He was there when they did something good, when they did something they shouldn’t have. He taught them hard work pays off, that it matters what you do and to not accept societal limitations. You taught them what it means to be self-made and what it means to put in the hard work in life. So, happy Father’s Day to the father of my children, I hope you enjoy this day and enjoy your children.
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